Develope an instant attraction for each other, and they both have partners but feel something for each other that is pretty strong should they make love or restrain those feelings that they feel? and keep them suppressed?....but what if those feelings are bigger than the both of them what then?.... let me know your answers.
2007-05-12 10:00:18 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Then i think both of those people need to take a long hard look at their current life and figure out if the person their with really is the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with, if they´re really in love and if given the choice, they would really choose their partner over every other person. If the answers to all those questions is yes, then that person will simply have to think about how much he or she would lose by cheating...not only hurt the person they love they most, but they would be betraying who they are....and temptation will always come in many forms and it´ll always be strong....that is what temptation is after all, so this person just really needs to see, realize and understand that fully and then figure out how to avoid this temptation or how to get over it, in the right way. However if the answer to all those questions before is no....then i think...even as much as it would hurt....it would be time to tell your partner how you feel....because it just wouldnt be fair to either of you otherwise. And if the answer to all those questions is "i dont know" or "im not sure"...then i think that would mean that you still have a lot to figure out and before you make any moves, you need to sit down, go for a walk, just simply take some time just for yourself and figure out what...and who it is that you want in your life. And then go for it.
2007-05-12 11:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Jaded 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're in a happy relationship, then you wouldn't even consider this. I'm in a position in life now where I can see an attraction for what it is, just an attraction. Just chemicals. I know I don't want them for real. Before I met my man though, I wondered if the grass was greener every time. If you feel like this, you shouldn't be in a relationship. Stay single and have a little fun, without hurting anyone
2007-05-12 17:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by Dogsbody 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Feelings are not bigger than anyone. Its only selfish urges. If the feelings are that strong, you should be respectful enough of your partner to be mature and not act on any feelings until you've ended the relationship with them. Any thing else will just lead to a ton of hurt. Patience is a virtue. And what goes around comes around.
2007-05-12 17:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
having an instant attraction for someone while you are taken happens a lot with people. If you truly love the one you are with 'nothing will be done about the instant attraction, if you don't really love your partner then let that person know. and go on from there .
2007-05-12 17:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they should try to suppress their feelings and totaaly avoid each other then go off and work out if their current relationship is what they really want and work out if they are with the right partner cuz summat isn't right between them if they have strong feelings for another !
2007-05-12 17:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe in restraining your feelings only if you're delaying the inevitable and thus making it even more powerful when it happens. In other cases, I don't approve of self-torture by complying to social norms and ruining your life for the sake of the appearances. It's fairer to all parties concerned if you're true to love, not to a person you don't love any more.
2007-05-12 17:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by ღ♥Goca♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have made a commitment and I, personally, would try to restrain those feelings, if I could not then I would do my best to avoid being put in a situation our feelings could cause any problems.
2007-05-12 17:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often does this really happen? Rarely I think. Most people who are happy in their relationships don't find themselves in this situation, or don't let themselves get into this situation. Sounds like you are talking about lust which is an instantaneous feeling - and is that any reason to act and ruin your partners life???
2007-05-12 17:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by HiLight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they should work on their current relationship with old partner to find problems. It doesn't sounds fair to me to make a new love .
2007-05-12 17:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by Koosha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation in your relationship. Who the other person is etc. Are there other people involved such as children. Ultimately discipline will have little to do with it.
2007-05-12 17:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by chi-chi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋