When I was a sophomore in HS, my english teacher told us that girls tend to want to marry someone like their father. I don't agree at all, and I'm not attracted to anyone who even resembles my father - not that I don't love my father (I do very much), I just don't like the way he acts & I've been through some hard times w/ him while growing up. Anyway, pretty much the whole class (for what its worth, I went to an all-girls school) nodded in agreement and I was the only one who didn't agree.
What do you think? Are you attracted to someone like your father?
2007-05-12 07:53:42 · 10 answers · asked by newyorkrose9 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I don't think it is necessarily on a conscious level that this attraction happens. I think the idea is that your father is the prototype for relating to men. Anyway, I'm not sure if I believe it either, but in some ways we are influenced by our relationships with our parents since our early development was with them.
2007-05-12 08:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that it is a matter of being attracted to someone who is like your father although, if you look at it, this may seem to be the case.
What girls are attracted to in boys are the charactistics that they are familiar with and the ways and mannerisms that they find comfortable. Now most girls have only one real male role model which happens to be their father and usually they are very comfortable with their fathers mannerisms etc. When a girl meets a boy that displays qualities that she finds familiar or comfortable, the girl tends to gravitate towards it.
The end result, is that in most cases a girl ends up with someone who has many similarities to their father.
By the way, the same applies in reverse to boys too.
2007-05-15 23:07:47 · answer #2 · answered by seychellesdreaming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True that. Not just love stories. It's foolishness to compare any part of life with movies.
2016-05-21 03:48:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not consciously, but subconsciously I think when girls are younger, they are attracted to men with their father's personality because that is the only male model they have so far.
2007-05-12 07:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Red Ant 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i heard that. People might think that because your father is supposed to be like a hero, or something like that, to you. and that would be the reason you want to maary someone who resembles him. But i didn't believe that, don't know why, it just didn't seem so logic to me
2007-05-12 08:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by saskia r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never thought i was...but now that i have been married to someone for almost 8 years who i thought was nothing like my father,I'm beginning to see he's a lot more like my father than wut i ever noticed.The thing is we don't really know what our fathers were like as young men,we look at them and see them as "daddy".....but once we r grown and see them as people instead of parents we can see & hear stories of wut they were really like.....and as well get more familiar with our spouce/boyfriend we can see how they really are alike in so many ways,or at least i can see it! Weird really!
2007-05-12 07:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I'm male, it is my mother's type I'm attracted to.
Surprizingly, when you marry and after a few years, you look at your husband, you'll think, "O my God! He's a lot like Dad." It sneaks up on you.
2007-05-12 08:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by Sophist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In old societies (like time of Freud) girls were not able to see many men except their own family, that's all.
2007-05-12 08:21:36 · answer #8 · answered by The Catalyst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my father was the best but i married the total opposite so don't think that is right at all...x
2007-05-12 07:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by jackie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kinda a creepy question.
2007-05-12 19:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by BabyGirl~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋