how do u confront someone with a drug problem?

Question

someone that i care for a lot, is on drugs, and has been for over a year, and im really worried about her, i confronted her once, and she promised to quit, but then the next day, everything stayed the same, and i worte her a letter last week and put it in her stash, and nothing hapened, im really worried about her, shes means alot to me, and i really want to confront her about it, but i dont know what a 17 year old can do to change an adults mind about something as serious as this, and its not like shes smoking pot, its much worst, shes smoking coke, im super worried....and im the only one to know execpt for her husband...someone help me please, im desprate

i had a friend of mine, tell me maybe to run away from home....without a trace....and be like im not comming home till you stop

shes already been to rehab like 9 years ago...it didnt work

Answer 1

try to get her into a rehab. she'll hate you for a while because of her addiction. but eventually she will realize it was for the better.

Answer 2

Hello, I answered your other question, but I see you are trying to "manage" the situation by guessing what the outcome will be. This is called enabling and it is how drug addicts get away with causing so much damage, everyone wants to try to manage the situation.
How do you know who will be put in foster care? Sorry but are you child welfare attorney or do you work for the county child protection services? No of course not.
And if the proper authorites determine a loving, stable foster care family is better than an unstable, dangerous, emotionally damaging drug addicted family, I think you should respect that decision.
You have two simple options: 1. Get independent, adult professional help, or 2. Live under the current situation that will most likely get worse before it gets better.
Good luck.

Answer 3

if she has a husband then you should be talking to him about her condition....I understand thats your n-all but her husband is her back unless he's useing too if thats the case you cant help her.A person useing hard drugs will not understand anything you say about stopping (its a fact) they have to first want to stop themselves all they see is the smoke and their chasing their high,I've had plenty of friends also family members on hard drugs and nothing worked at all.the only thing that will work is years of rehab because they may relapes every now and then.your friend needs to be in a rehab,she wont stop until she hits a bottom;find out what her bottom is and get her to it then something mabye just something will click in her head about getting off drugs if not tell your friend your through with her until she seeks the help that she needs (rehab) not 3 to 6 months but 2yrs or more.your 17 shes an adult go and live your life and leave her alone B4 she tries to make your life like hers.(a living smoke hell place)always seeking $ to smoke up and not caring about the ones you hurt.sometimes you just cant help people like that,help yourself get away leave her to her husband