that he had a life already. I love him but its just too much to handle. Whats bigger love or the nasty feelings a have? What do I do? HELP!!!
2007-05-12 05:10:06 · 28 answers · asked by Steph 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay I'm not going to yell at you. You know what the problem is. He is married and has a life. You are his 18 year old piece of somthin' somthin' on the side. You know this. You are being used. You are being manipulated. You have been lied to.
If you want to be happy, if you want to live a life not filled with drama and heartache you NEED to leave him and never look back. I know it may feel difficult to do now, but in the long run you will be happy for it.
2007-05-12 05:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to stop seeing him immediately! First, In order to do what he has done, he is already lying (I can assure you, to pull off an affair, he has lied to his wife), disloyal (to his wife), and immature (no matter how mature you are for an 18 year old, there are still things that make you more immature and/or naive than someone his age, and he selected you because you're easy prey). Trust me, you do not want to spend your life with a lying, disloyal and immature ***. You'll be stressed and neglected for the rest of your life if you stay with a guy like this, married or not. Second, since you're so young, I won't be too hard on you for seeing a married man. I'm sure he convinced you how horrible his wife is, and how wonderful you are, but I can assure you, he's just blowing smoke up your *** to keep you around. Put yourself in his wife's shoes. If you were married to him, had a daughter, and found out he was having a relationship with a woman 8 years younger, how would you feel? You shouldn't be supporting his bad habits. Clear your conscience, and improve your life, get away from this *** hole!
2007-05-12 05:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Christina W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he is married he is not your boyfriend,
having a child or not, how in the world can you love
someone that is taken as you will never get that
love back. Go on with your life as you are very
young and have a long life ahead of you. Find that
someone that is for you and only for you and let
this be an experience in life to show you not to get
in the same situation again as statics have proven
when one is with a married person , it usually
means that the un-married person always get hurt
in the end. Move forward in your life and if you get
involved with married men you will always be mov-
backwards, which means you will never get any-
where in life. Life is meant to be enjoyed and you
can enjoy it even more once you have found the
right mate for you. Good luck.
2007-05-12 05:18:03 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the f*ck??? Put yourself in his wife's shoes. How the eff would you feel if it was you? Would you be cool with your husband having a girlfriend? No the f*ck you wouldn't. Leave the married men alone. Leave the men that already have girlfriends alone. It is NOT fair. It is NOT right. What do you do? Girl, you know better. You know what you have to do. Grow a back bone and leave him the eff alone. Change your number. Move. Get away. Disappear. Grow the hell up.
2007-05-12 05:14:49 · answer #4 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a wealthy boy friend with NO WIFE & DAUGHTER and when you marry him keep close tabs on him so he doesn't have an 18 year old girlfriend.
2007-05-12 05:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends on how long you two hav e been together, and how long you two really know each other, I was in the same situation and beleive me i did alot of talking I know how you feel, but hang in there, you know everyday, i tsalk to my boyfriend, and every day i tell him i love him, sometimes he needs his space, and i can understand that, But as the years went by, We talked and got to know more of each other, He is my best friend, and i make sure he is the only one i sleep with, He sleeps only with me too, But his ex lives with him, because of financial trouble, Soo hye told me i cant go to his house or i cant meet his daughter, Sure i would love to, But under the circumstances, I asked him right out Why doesnt he tell his ex wife or seperated wife about me, and go from there, instead of hiding, Ask him right out if he loves you , then he should take a stand , and talk to his ex wife, and tell her the truth, and tell his lawyer, give him an choice either you stay with me, and tell your ex about us, and lawyer, or Go find yourself another doggy woman to care for your needs, I waited for 7 years , and this year is going to be my year, to have things go my way, and if he doesnt tell his ex wife, then you tell her, I did once, And she excepted him back, But He cant stand his wife, and I end up making love to him more and more each day, Soo have paiteince, and when the time is right have a long long talk with him
2007-05-12 05:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by trudycaulfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!!!!!
you know what to do that feeling wont go away if he leaves he will do the same to you when someone better comes along.
He is destroying his life his daughters life your live and his wifes life!!!
You are assisting in wrecking a home since you know he is married
You are in the wrong and he is in the wrong this is not love!
2007-05-12 05:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married with a kid and you are his girlfriend?......You know what to do, now go do it and run away don't walk.....he's using you and your life will stink, forever, if you don't get out of this.
2007-05-12 05:15:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have learned a tough lesson. Get away from him now. Don't mess with married men. He is not your "boyfriend".
2007-05-12 05:13:38 · answer #9 · answered by justagirl33552 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what to do. However hard it may be for you to break it off, your heart is telling you that this is not only the right thing to do, but the right thing for you.
You deserve better, and everyone wants better for you. You are young with a long future ahead of you with someone who can give you a committed, stable, fruitful relationship.
Except for him, of course. He is happy just the way things are.
2007-05-12 05:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by njspanteach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋