My husband was really good to me until last year. He once said to me, "If I wasn't married to you, what would it be like to be married to Jane." Once Jane asked me if I would stay married to my husband. When he started treating me like crap last year and I asked him what was wrong with him he said "it's over now" and then he said some excuse dealing with his work. He always defends Jane and feels sorry for her because of her crappy husband. He has been verbally yelling at me for different reasons since this. When I want to cut the ties that link us with these people he gets mad and starts yelling at me telling me he's not going to be mean. It's worse then that just to long to put in writting.
2007-05-12 04:51:37 · 11 answers · asked by teardrops 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At the end, being strangers, we cannot reach a conclusion out of these facts. So, you should try to figure it out yourself. Be smart, and try to think of a way how you can learn the truth, and implement it.
Only thing i can say is that, if you are suspecting, there can be more than 50% probability. Trust your instincts...
2007-05-12 05:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by BRI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fishy. But lots of rows start because the other person is too accusing, and it can be thrown back at you by him saying "don't you trust me?" The thing to do is approach him differently. Tell him that you understand him having a hard time and you wish he could open up to you, but that he's been so secretive he's giving you less and less reason to trust him, and you would hate for the trust to end. Tell him you know he wouldn't cheat, but you wish he could be honest enough about his problems to not make it seem that way. He will ineviably ask you want you mean, and you can tell him why you are suspicious.
2007-05-12 12:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating on you with Jane! If he isnt....he's thinking about doing it soon and so is Jane. Go talk to Jane's husband with your concerns. No point in talking to your husband about your concerns, sounds like he doesnt even know how to spell the word!
Go to the other husband and you'll both find out the truth. When you do...nail him!! Not on the cross, but in court!
Good luck chicky...
2007-05-14 22:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with Jane's husband.
Maybe he's having the same problems as you right now.
Who knows maybe your putting to much thought into it.
Who knows maybe your putting less thought into it.
Either way you need to talk to someone. If Jane or your husband isn't listening. try to talk to Jane's husband and figure out the outcome on both of your guy's opinion
GOOD LUCK!
2007-05-12 12:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray and pray and ask God what you should do and the answer that he gives you then you have no choice to do it Marriages are not the same these days their more hard and to make a marriage work it takes two people not just one if one person is willing and the other one isn't then you need to weight your options I hope and pray that there is not children involve. You deserve to be happy and if this is not the man for you then God has that man in the waiting but we as women of God we must be patience and wait upon him. Never ever settle yourself SHORT
Good luck
2007-05-12 12:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by amissy25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I swear I have nothing to do with this!
Seriously.....I don`t believe into giving ultimatum but this would be an exception. Jane or me... decide now and hurry cause the next train leaves at 6! type of ultimatum.
2007-05-12 11:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds messed up. as a guy i would say he is. I would never say anything like to my wife regardless so hes not only cheating but hes an ass hole about it as well.
2007-05-12 12:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by chewbaer90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, thats hard to say, but go with your gut on that one. if you dont want to be around these people, your husband should respect your wishes.
2007-05-12 11:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probanly was cheating or at least Seriously considering it... she was too by the sound of it
get some marriage counseling
2007-05-12 12:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he might but he's not i would say divorce him because his treating u badly and said it was over.sorry
2007-05-12 11:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by lolis m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋