i've been married to her for one year and throught the marrige she has been verbually abusive to me as well as pschically abousive to me all she does is call me derogitory names and throws things at me i've never hit or touched her it got to the point i'd to leave the state to get away from her what should i'd do about the threating messages i've a lawer in this matter.
2007-05-12 04:44:42 · 9 answers · asked by hank d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Save those messages and taken then to your lawyer, it'll help if you have witness of her physical abuse (yes, men get spousal abuse too), All this should help to make your divorce fast and easier.
And why should you move to get rid of such psycho? Ask your lawyer if a restraining order is possible, and change your phone numbers.
She's obviously feeling bad about loosing you, but some people take it a little more civilized and some just show their bad instincts.
Best of luck.
2007-05-12 05:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Lulu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a nice guy and have gone thru the same marraige I had and also the same abuse. Once the divorce was final my ex would still call all the time at my apartment and at work. I didn't get a restraining order because we have two kids but when I could see that she was calling I would let the phone ring. You could change your phone number but why should you have to do that. You can be your self now and just ignore her. I am on the second year of being single and it is nice coming home knowing that your going to have a calm night and not be beaten or be abused. So hang in there, things will improve in time but let the phone ring.... she is still trying to control you by having you answer the phone and demeaning you. Why let someone do that to you again.. Your a better man... Good luck!
2007-05-12 06:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by patrick c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi..There are 2 scenarios . 1. The most common. Ur parents must be definatley torchuring her.. If so separating from them instead of ur wife and kid would be a better option, some men never grow up and love to stick to their mothers saree.Typical Mama's Boy. 2. She never said She wants a divorse .. means She wants to live with her, but is cannot live with the problems u cause her . 3. She really has no affection or love for you , and no matter What u do She will not come back. I would suggest a divorse only in 3rd case. Breaking this marriage for your paarents sake will bring u no happiness at all. Though if u leave her or live with her will not affect Ur parents. They r happy anyways
2016-04-01 08:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by Gail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are saving these messages as proof of her abusiveness. If you have not....then you have been very foolish. These messages are a GIFT that will make the divorce go much smoother. Good luck. After the divorce, change your phone# or get a restraining order if she doesn't stop.
2007-05-12 05:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Felix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an ulisted number or a cell phone that only is known to your business associates and friends. Cut the link that lets her vent to you.
2007-05-12 05:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order to keep her away from you and to stop threatening phone calls (terrorist threats).
2007-05-12 04:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your number... again...and again.. if necessary... keep a log... and each time she calls... tell her in no uncertain terms that you... will be recording each and every word. and if she would like to hear them back... infront of a judge... by all means she should feel free to continue her rants and tirades.
you know it's over...she knows it's over... bitter angry people just don't know how to deal... maybe providing her with feedback ...will help snap her back into reality
2007-05-12 04:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, that was rather stupid of her, because now you have proof. save the messages, and ask a lawyer about how you can use them against her.
2007-05-12 04:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
change your digits....Give the messages to your Lawyer
2007-05-12 04:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋