I am recently divorced,and have moved out of the marital home. I know live with my twin sister who just had a baby. She has a 9 yr old as well. I myself have a 2 yr old and a 12 yr old. The 12 and 9 yr old fight constantly. My sisters boyfriend also lives there its a nightmare. My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and get along great until this all happened. I thought I was helping my sister out, but it seems as if she is taking over. She constantly fights with my boyfriend and always is butting into my relationships. Her daughter is very disrespectful towards everyone. My sister seems to let it go, and decides to take it out on my 12yr old. My boyfriend has decided to leave this caos. To top it off my sisters boyfriend is my boyfriends brother. Get me out of this mess. What should I do without offending anyone.?
2007-05-12 03:46:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
get a place of ur own. SIMPLE
2007-05-12 03:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by joddie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of that sounds healthy to me!!! For you, your relationship but most of all for your kids!!!! They are what is most important, not our boyfriends, sisters, anybody elses feelings or anything else. It sounds like maybe they are unhappy to. It doesn't mean you don't all love each other, its just not natural for that many people to be in such confined quarters. You will all get along better when you separate. NATURALLY!! Can't you get your own apartment? It may take a little time but you have an advantage right now of looking and taking your time to find a place. Some people are thrust into finding one in a matter of days. I think your boyfriend is right, leave the Chaos!!! Life is to short and can be much more blissful than that!!!!!!!!
2007-05-12 10:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out to your own place. Simplify your life and you will be happier. Just divorced and you already have a longtime boyfriend? And kids are involved? You must love drama.
I repeat...get your own place. You can't take care of your sister and her kids and her boyfriend, you have more than you can handle already. She may be mad for awhile if she was depending on you for financial help but everyone will be better off and happier in the long run.
2007-05-12 10:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Dusty P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the movie "The Longest Yard", the original. The quarter back for the prision team threw the football right into the groin of an opposing player. In the following huddle when ask to call the next play he just said "well it worked once".
Well you moved once, it worked once. Have you considered doing it again?
2007-05-12 10:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move. Grown folks need space. There are too many people under one roof. Get your own place and nobody will be in your business and you won't have to be disrespected by children.
I remember a day when disrespectful children got they behind whooped!
2007-05-12 10:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by ZX3R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what you do you will end up with a tift with your sister..but let her know the termoile that is going on and that she will need to move ..give her a dead line for this..there will be some bad blood for a time but when she is out she will realise how much happier everyone is and will be back to herself and friends with you..this will take some time so be patient..and good luck
2007-05-12 10:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. You are recently divorced but dating a boyfriend for a while? sounds like a bad start to a new relationship.
2007-05-12 10:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are having problems with you and your kids being there then leave. Do them a favor. I understand its family and all. but it sounds more like a burden being there than helping them.
you guys have family ties so its not like you can leave it for good. You guys need your space - so you guys should move out. concentrate on your own family instead of trying to fix 2 families with one stone. 2 families living together has to many opinions. to many people set in their ways. to many problems.
what your going through was unavoidable. lol Good luck
2007-05-12 10:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got yourself into this mess, not your sister. You are not helping your sister out. You moved in and brought baggage with you. It has disrupted their routine and created frustration and tension. Your sister was trying to help you out with a place to stay. Its her house not yours = her rules. Get a place of your own ASAP.
2007-05-12 10:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find your own place,for you and the children and make a fresh start and surely you would prefer your own place anyway,a place you can relax in your own four walls,that shouldn't offend anyone,think of your children's and your own happiness
2007-05-12 10:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by NATALIE W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and get your own place.
2007-05-12 10:50:44 · answer #11 · answered by DSMUFFIN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋