my boyfriend wants me to pay his bill he always not paying his bills on time and i am always bailing him out this time i refuse to but we live together and we have no cable because he did not pay should i pay the pill or should i suffer with out t.v
2007-05-12 03:11:54 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Offer to pay the bills with his money.
2007-05-12 03:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as you bail him out of financial problems he will continue to do exactly what he is doing. Why should he bother, he knows that you'll take care of it sooner than later.
Take control, pay all the bills and get from him a flat fee as soon as he gets paid. You'll have all the things your need and you will not have to depend on him. Just remember you are still enabling him by taking care of everything. It is up to you what has more value, freedom from worry or teaching him to grow up and be responsible. As an afterthought, get cable in another apartment. That way he really has no choice but to start taking responsibility for his life.
2007-05-12 03:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by Cats&Dogs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you live together and you feel you are suffering with no tv then isn't that really your bill too? If it is something you use, you should be equally responsible. I take care of the bills for my husband and I because he is no good with money. However, he has to give me all of the money until I pay bills and then he gets what is left. If your bf is not willing to do that it won't work. Also, you may want to move on because money is a big cause of fights in relationships you may want to find someone who shares your views on money.
2007-05-12 03:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by JenMommyMom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is he doing with all his money.. You better watch out girl, save your money and from what you say, he sounds like one of those free loaders who's only there cause they have a sugar mama. If thats the case i would tell you to pack your bags and leave but then again love can be very cruel sometimes. My sister was in the same situation and ended up alone with 3 kids in an apartment and no one to help her. I wish she would have listened to me back in the days when i told her to leave and come home. O well whats done is done and she seems happy even tho it can be really hard sometimes. Just follow your best judgment.
2007-05-12 03:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by meamii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suffer without the TV. If you keep paying his bills for him -- you will always have to pay his bills for him.
That's why I wouldn't ever live with a guy. I'd do it for a husband in a heartbeat. Never a boyfriend.
2007-05-12 03:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by biiiiaaach 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pay the bill, then send him on his way.
My dad was a drunken bum, spending all the money on drink and at arcades, leaving my mum to pay the bills. My mum did it every time because she loved him, but then she finally seen sense, she told him to moved out. He then moved to a different country and left my mum with a 3 grand bill.
That's what will happen to you if you don't get out now.
2007-05-12 03:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but why, in a society where women have the right to choose who their mate would be, would you choose a guy with such an utter lack of responsibility?
And more to the point why would you choose a guy, give your body to a guy, who has no respect for you?
Would you chose for your daughter to live with (and not be married to) this guy? Is this the guy you want as a roll model for your son? Are your parents proud of this situation?
This is your life we are talking about! Make smart choices.
2007-05-12 03:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boo, you have a co-dependent masquerading as a boyfriend.
Just because he has bedroom skills doesn't mean that you should be paying his bills for him.
When you pay HIS bills -- you just co-sign bad behavior.
Give him deadlines and when he refuses -- change the locks on the apartment -- I am assuming the lease to the apartment is just in your name.
2007-05-12 06:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by DaMan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's relying on you to be the responsible one. When there are two mature adults in a relationship, they are both responsible and neither person has to feel the burden. Don't pay it. It's time to take a stand. I'd sooner go shopping than watch tv and let him know I'm a shmo.
2007-05-12 03:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience (so this is a totally bias comment) - ditch his a**. People like this do not change. If you've paid it before again and again you've already taught him that you will and that it's okay. He's going to continue to take advantage.
I would seriously take a step back to see if it's worth it to stick it out with him because this is obviously a problem - and it's definitely going to effect you and your future family. Where is his money going? If he doesn't have a job - you already know what you should do.
2007-05-12 03:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by lbkipp@verizon.net 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋