I am a little autistic and it is difficult for me to interact with other people?

Question

Sometimes I don´t get to see when they are telling me something with their body language.
Or people say something to me, and I got the wrong message.
Especially with girls, also with groups.

I would apreciate if you can give me advices, or things that I could do to reach the others and get to understand them more.

I happen to think a lot in order to adjust this things that I am trying to solve.

Thanks a lot
and best wishes to the person that could help me

I was diagnose with Asperger Syndrome with some signs of autism by my pshychiatrist.

Answer 1

Practice makes perfect.
Many people have never been around an autistic person and don't know what to expect,be patient with them.Reading body language sometimes isn't the easiest thing to do,each person is different,it's not something you learn to do overnight.
The more you interact with people the better you get,especially with the same people,they will get to know you.Sometimes you can pick up patterns in peoples lives.

Answer 2

We all have that problem. People talk as if they were using shorthand. You have to do some interpretation until you learn each persons particular language. Very few people are clear all the time (for example, foreign speakers use a much more grammatically correct form of the language). Try to listen then translate what they said into something reasonable (use nouns as a guide, keep in mind on what context they said the phrase) modify the phrase to describe a common situation in that context or construct a common situation from the nouns and if nothing makes sense classify it as slang and ask them to tell you more about what they just said then repeat the process with the original phrase and the new one.
You can also use a very correct form of english so people will be discouraged to use slang when talking to you. You can use gestures that are overacted and very clear in meaning so the other person will be encouraged to use a clear body language by imitation of your behaviour. Be patient, reading people takes time and there's a lot of strange things in the way they interact with other people, don't listen to them, interpret them. By the way, if girls were easy to figure out they would be easy to romance and that something they don't want.

Answer 3

You are not alone in this problem, a lot of people have trouble communicating and understanding others.It is not solely just a problem with autism.Perhaps you should think that you are a positive person and realize that you are not alone in solving these problems.People do strange things and it is not always easy to understand their motives.They may not always give a true picture of their selves and communicate easily.So you really should not worry and become oversensitive about yourself.Build up your confidence levels .Try verbal communication more often this is your lifeline .If you are not sure ask people what they mean you do not have to explain why you are asking .Just enquire about their thought processes.I wish you the very best and I understood you perfectly so will everyone else if they care to listen.

Answer 4

Try finding someone with a form of autism that is higher functioning than you. Ask them what they had trouble learning, and they might be able to help you with what you're having trouble with. Maybe a support group could help you and teach you what some of the body language means. Try reading Freaks, Geeks, and Asperger Syndrome : A Guide to Adolescence by Luke Jackson.

Answer 5

Were all a little out there... I can t be late for anything. I have to be the best. I have to reprogram my brain. When I catch myself reanalyzing a situation and not letting it go, and doing the hamster wheel in my head. I have to stop think and move on to another thing. Best way to change something is to notice when you do it and do the opposite of it. You know your issues so work on what you are aware of. Do not allow yourselves to continue doing it.

Answer 6

Take your time to observe first how things work in the group of people you're with and join in and become more active once you're more comfortable. Don't worry if it takes a little more time to you than it does to others. It will come. Best wishes.

Answer 7

The health professional (shrink?) that diagnosed you as "a little" autistic should also be able to provide you with therapy where you learn how to interact with your surroundings. There is help to get.