Why do people react to me this way. This is who I am. Normal?

Question

At the beginning of the year I was very social because these people were knew to me and I wanted to get to know them. I was very popular. After a while, they started forming their own groups and I realized that they are very cold people. I lost my power. I stopped talking to most people around me, even my professors because no one really interests me anymore. I get bored with people. People think I am loner and they always try to invite me to their discussions. I am not interested nor do I have anything to say. I do feel lonely sometimes, but I am use to it. I go down my own road. I don't stick with one group. Don't try to figure me out. I have a few friends here and there. I trust a few. I don't really care about those who don't show interest in me.

I live in the waiting room.

Answer 1

Living in a community... people tend to be sociable. Socializing does not necessarily mean everyone has a vested interest. Seeing someone in a gloomy condition... people tend to involve one. They understand that happiness leads to success in life... Why not all of us be happy all the time!

If I feel comfortable being a loner... none must have a problem! That is our thinking! In the eyes of others perhaps I need a company... and the socializing starts! Slowly when people realize that I am comfortable being a loner... they leave me on my own. This is what life is all about... caring for others in times of need!

If we are optimistic... we always recognize the helping hand in life! Remaining aloof we can always garner our inherent energies to fruitful ends. At 13 years of age when I started in search of God... I was a complete loner! I cannot even imagine that stage of my life now. But I was always happy from within. Why?

For the simple reason that I had a goal... search for God in this very life! I was always after it... come whatever may! Friends or no friends... company or no company... I was always pursuing the final goal of my life... a search for God Almighty! I was very happy doing that. No adverse comments or remarks from friends and colleagues ever disturbed me... I was always on my own at that time!

That was the time of my life when I considered myself a king in all aspects... a king without a territory... a king who was always alone in the journey of life... a king in making! I never feared anything in life. The spiritual path I traveled was an uncharted territory. I had to go all alone... so I learnt from the writings of the realized masters. I wanted to give it a try... I succeeded in the end!

At 37 years of age... 25 years later I finally realized God in this very life. Having reached the stage of Nirvikalpa Samadhi... I can commune with God any moment of my life on one-to-one basis. It is an experience that can never be expressed in words. The moment I realized God... my life changed! Now I was no more a loner... I loved socializing with like-minded people. More on Life - http://www.godrealized.org/truce_with_my_inner_self.html

Answer 2

While it is "normal" for others to branch off into their own groups ..at the same time , I don't think it means they are reacting to you - or that it is because you "lost power" . The new person usually does get the focus of others at first ..and maybe they already had these so-called groups formed ..Who's to say ? And there is no big deal on wanting to be alone . The fact that you enjoy your own company isn't a bad thing . But..if you prefer your own company solely because you lost your power - then you are taking yourself way too serious . . and I do think - despite the fact that you say " don't try to figure me out"..that you yourself might be trying to figure this out ..It's a fact ..some people are self-centered & their coldness shows it . But when you stopped talking to those you were once "very social" with - that would be a natural response . Groups , shroups..who cares ? Just be polite to others & they will recipricate . Don't worry about the in-between and you'll do fine .

Answer 3

"Why do people react to me this way."

Because everyone has the right to react or not to react just the way that they want to and that is their choice.

"This is who I am. Normal?"

I think yes, but what is normal? That changes from day to day and with different perspectives and perceptions. It is subjective.

"At the beginning of the year I was very social because these people were knew to me and I wanted to get to know them. I was very popular. After a while, they started forming their own groups and I realized that they are very cold people. I lost my power."

I actually recently did this same thing, I told them to form their own groups and then I let them go, does that make me bad, good, or different or indifferent, or is it a form of freedom?

"I stopped talking to most people around me, even my professors because no one really interests me anymore."

Boredom is not an uncommon thing, maybe you need to find some different or new people to talk to that share some of your different interest, maybe this is a sign of growth for you, but others do not like to see us change and be different so they want to stigmatize that and say it is a mind disease. They want us to be who they expect us to be not who we want to be.

"I get bored with people."

Probably things too, that is very much what most people do or many people to say the least

"People think I am loner and they always try to invite me to their discussions. I am not interested nor do I have anything to say. I do feel lonely sometimes, but I am use to it. I go down my own road. I don't stick with one group."

There is absolutely nothing wrong with any of that.

"Don't try to figure me out."

No I wouldn't that would be a waste of my time only you can figure you out only you know what is truly inside of you

I have a few friends here and there. I trust a few. I don't really care about those who don't show interest in me."

That is all good, you really owe no one besides yourself anything, you owe it to yourself to be content.

Answer 4

People are the mirrors of who we really are! They reflect back to us what we truly are and sometimes it is not a pretty picture or image! Reading your own description, I would say that you have all the attributes of the Archetype- Aquarius. Being one myself I can relate to your problem. Remember, you have Choice! You can change your self, which is easier to adapt to your situation, but you really cannot change anyone else unless they want to change. If you want a friend, become a friend. If you want Love, become more Loving. It is all up to you! Only you are responsible for your Life and no one else. When I have an effect-problem in Life. I look within myself for the First Cause of my problem. What you think, say and do today determines your Future tomorrow! To change a condition in Life, you need to change your Mind about the Condition! In Life, for every Cause there is an Effect and for every Effect there is a Cause!

Answer 5

I recently went thru this myself.
I used to be the most outgoing social person that anyone could know. The life of the party. The attention getter.
The center of attention. Quite the big head.
I now am very anti-social... I don't answer the phone or the door... I stay to myself in my four walls. I get lonely to sometimes..but I get over it!
I am just fine...
I say Stay the way you are....
Besides, it is very hard to trust people these days...
I guess if a true friend comes along..they'll have ways of proving themselves to you and you'll know to let em in or not.
You'll be just fine...

Answer 6

I had this same situation myself a few years ago. What I found is most important is to find one or two good friends and stick with them. To popular culture, you're behavior is not "normal" but in reality, they are the ones who are acting outside of their true selves.

Answer 7

You've pretty much answered your own question and if you're comfortable with that, there may be no need for you to analize it any further...In the end, all that matters is what you think of yourself and if that makes you happy...I think you're fine the way you are...take from a loner who knows !!!

Answer 8

Power is an illusion. We have no power over others. We do have power over ourselves. So, you lost something that you never had.

Feeling powerless though is a different thing entirely. What we feel powerless about can have an enormous impact on our daily lives.

Answer 9

it is an previous pal that he felt delicate sufficient to share a meal with and a few communique. because of the fact they are buddies, they understand their admire for another which permits them to share a friendship. greater ideal than sitting on my own in a hotel room or chatting with strangers at a bar. If he had to fool around he may be doing it in the back of your back. Your marriage will on no account proceed to exist in case you're this immature, in spite of in case you're jointly, yet distinctly in case you're aside. those themes are with you, and you may desire to settle on them. according to possibility talk to a counselor.

Answer 10

you live in a waiting room? what the hell? your attitude sucks. you get "bored" with other people? if you didn't care, you wouldn't ask this question...get over yourself. or just continue living a lonely life.