Guys......Does a Husband own his Wife?

Question

As in, do you assume that you will make all the financial decisions?

Do you assume that she will be the one cooking and cleaning?

Just curious as to how you picture day to day life as a husband.

Answer 1

We've had an equal partnership for over fifty-three years. The master-servant scheme doesn't work. The banker-flunkie scheme doesn't work. The housekeeper- honored guest scheme doesn't work. Partnership and equality does work.

Answer 2

I find this to be a stupid question - altho it may simply be the way it was asked. In my marriage you may just as well ask "does the wife own the husband?" We both do whatever needs to be done be it cooking or cleaning, the wash or shopping or cutting the grass or spreading the manure on the fields. It is a partnership with 2 equals and no boss. Making the other person happy is much more important than finding gender roles.

Answer 3

I know I'm not one of the guys, but your question is a bit important to me so I will put my penny on the line here. Like what Kimmy says, no one owns nobody. A man can not own a woman because their married and vice versa. If you treated your wife as one of your belonging,it means that you never respect her as a human but part of your properties. Not because you are the bread winners in the house, it doesn't mean that her job as a wife is not hard and important.
Assuming is a bit wrong, man and wife supposed to decide about financial decisions, plan things about the future and so forth. Now that you know what I think ,I hope that your question is only a curious thing that you have.....

Answer 4

No, we are partners.

But here is something to think about...

Since women have been liberated from "womens work" ie being a home maker,
The divorce rate has jumped to 50%
teen drug use has jumped dramatically
teen pregnancy has jumped dramatically
teen suicide rate has jumped dramatically
Men have become wusses
The metrosexual was born
school drop out rates are up
education numbers are down

The point I am making is that it appears to me that "home maker" was probably the most important job there was. We are two generations out from the feminazi movement and we are a mess. To me, the way you worded your question sounds like there is a feminist influence to it. Why do we devalue that roll? I think that stay at home wives and mothers were the nucleus of the family, and the family unit is the nucleus of any society.

I have yet to hear of a woman who, at the end of her life, regretting not being able to work more, but I have heard of A LOT of women that wished they had spent more time with their family.

Since the beginning of time women have been th home makers, and men have been the providers and the system worked for thousands of years. In the last 40 the feminists have told us that it was ALL dictatorial oppression by the man. I don't know, thousands of years of progressive society and actual family values, vs 40 years of decline.

Is there any chance that the feminists could have been a little wrong?

Answer 5

Generally no. Some women allow themselves to get owned as do some men by women. Depends on the situation. If both partners are working, they both should cook and clean. If the wife doesn't work, she should cook and clean and vice versa if the husband was at home for whatever reason and the wife works.

Answer 6

As a husband, I don't own anyone. I work, she works. I make dinner for her everynight, she typically does the dishes. I pay the bills while we both contribute to our cash flow. Sometimes I do the laundry, most of the time she does. I cut the grass and do all things outside of the house while she usually is the one to clean the house. The first time either of us expects the other to do something is when a problem may arise. As for now, our system works just fine. Rule #1 in a marriage - Communication and equality.

Answer 7

No body owns anyone so a husband owning his wife is out of question.

It isn't wise for anyone to take all financial decisions on his own. Its always better to discuss, formulate and act.

Household chores like cooking and cleaning should be done together because its gives us a feeling of togetherness and feeling that we are doing it for our own house.

CARE is all it takes and when you care you know what's right and what isn't.

Answer 8

Definately not. As for our household, we work together with the financise. Since money is the number one cause of maritial bumps, we both are in the know. She loves to cook and I clean up. She mostly does the laundry but I can say I do my share. Marriage is working together, not working over the other.

Answer 9

NO. That kind of thinking is out dated. In a marriage the the two partners are equals in everything. They should share all resources and responsibilities. If they don't its a parent - child or master - servant relationship which is not what a marriage should be. If one person is doing all of something it should be by agreement of both and because its works out best for the situation.

Answer 10

Did he purchase her?
My husband and I both work, both take care of the home and children, and we are extremely happy.
Ownership is not a question that is raised, as I am not a member of a slave race, and neither is he. No money/goods changed hands to purchase either of us.
He is of a Native American nation that is predominantly Matriarchal. I am from a Patriarchal society, so no fights over that stuff in our house, we work together.