He said, "Why should I do anything special for you for Mother's Day? It's not like you're the mother of my children or anything."
Yet he's taking his kids shopping to buy a Mother's Day gift for his ex-wife........
2007-05-12 01:26:22 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes, I AM a mother, but we don't have kids together. And I do a lot to help him with his kids. I guess that's what hurts so bad.....
2007-05-12 01:36:31 · update #1
That was pretty $hitty thing for him to say. You sure he's a good guy?
2007-05-12 03:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a bit insensitive for him to say it like that. Sounds like you both need to see it from each others point of view. He has children with his ex wife so of course he's gonna take his kids out shopping to buy a mothers day gift for his ex. She's the mother of his kids and you need to accept that! On the other hand, he should be a bit more sensitive to you about mothers day and remember that you are a mother too (I'm assuming you are as you didn't say) and need as much attention as well on mothers day!
2007-05-12 08:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by shellpower67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't the most tactful way to approach the situation, but no I don't think that it was a "crappy" thing to say. I mean Mother's Day is a day for mothers and not for women in general. So unless you actually are a mother, I think your boyfriend has a point.
This of course doesn't mean that he can treat you like **** because you aren't a mother. You still deserve his respect.
2007-05-12 08:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by rockeratheart 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I assume the kids' mother takes care of them. Do you have any kids of your own? If not, then I think it's a bit rich to expect anything for Mother's Day.
2007-05-12 08:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Dr Know It All 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As much as this may be hard to cope with. He's right, you aren't the mother of his children. And why would he not take his kids out to buy something for their MOTHER on mother's day. Grow up and stop being so pathetic. When you become a mother, then you may have the priviledge of celebrating mother's day as a mother. Concentrate on YOUR mother and forget about yourself for a day, jeez.
2007-05-12 08:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by Barkditch 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He has a point, although he could have said it nicer.
You aren't the mother of his children.
Are you the mother of ANY children? You didn't say.
If his kids are too young to get their mom something on their own, then he does owe it to her to take them shopping.
If you are a mother, then a little acknowledgment from him would be nice, but he doesn't really HAVE to.
Sorry.
2007-05-12 08:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by amstaff 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you do too hun, from what I have read. Sounds like he needs to get back with his ex. Why did they break up anyway, and aren't you the "Step" of his kids? Sometimes we dont want leave because we think that the "rewards" we get in a relationship are better than nothing, but you are paying a huge cost and you really don't sound very happy. Find someone who will treat you right, you owe it to yourself, don't waste anymore time on this jerk!
2007-05-12 08:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by SheSpawn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the children live with you and your bf then my guess is it is partly your responsibility to parent them. So yes that's a pretty crappy thing to say.
But the bigger question is, what do you think the children are learning from your living arrangement?
2007-05-12 08:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by mikey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was rude in the way he came across.
Bringing the kids shopping is really a cool thing to do...they want a gift for their mother.
It's another story if HE gives her a gift.
2007-05-12 08:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Bonnie Lynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is crappy!!!! you have kids too, doesn't he have a good relationship with your kids too? he should ask them if they need help buying you a mothers day gift. however, i do think that it's good that he's helping his kids to do for their mom.
like i said though, he should be helping your kids out too, for you! you may need that new boyfriend, it's a bad way he put it to you, and didn't think of your feelings!!!!!
2007-05-12 12:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sisters boyfriend when asked what are we doing for mothers day replied Huh? Your not My mother. Maybe you tow should go hunting together.
2007-05-12 08:31:14 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋