We lived together 2 years before marriage.
I been married 10 years, we still laugh and smile everyday.
Love & respect and care for each other.
2007-05-12 01:23:49 · 27 answers · asked by Terri 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have found living with someone before you get married is great you find out all of the things that might annoy you before you tie the knot. My husband and i lived together for almost 3 yrs when we got married and when people asked what changed after we were married there was not much to say since it was like we had been married for 3 yrs before that.
2007-05-12 01:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by fxyangel04 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I lived together for four years before getting married and have been married now for ten years. I definitely think that living together first gave us an advantage, because you never really know someone until you have lived together. With that being said, I must admit that prior to us getting married I was of the belief that marriage was just a piece of paper. (a formality) I could not have been more wrong. Getting married completely changed our relationship. It brought us a sense of intimacy and trust that did not exsist while we were just living together as boyfriend and girlfriend. We suddenly respected eachother more, took pride in introducing eachother to friends, family, and co-workers, and felt much more secure in everyday life scenarios. There are also other benefits to being legally married, such as tax breaks, employer insurance rights, and etc.....So while living together before marriage certainly does not hurt, there is no substitution for the real thing!!
2007-05-12 05:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anne W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its a great idea i lived with my now husband 4years before we got married and this was by choice i wanted to make sure he had good work ethics, could support a household and was ready to give up the street life i had to make sure i was ready to be a wife, beginning a wife is more than cooking ,cleaning and looking pretty on his arm it a responsibility that take a 100%investment with your mind body and soul i don't regret a thing we both matured together and respect each 100x times more because we have been through the good and bad together the love that my husband and i have for each other reaches to the heavens and is embraced by God.
in today's world people can hide so much from you that i wouldn't consider marrying someone i didn't live with first .
2007-05-12 02:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well really it does not depend when you live together before marriage or not.
If you married, and have kids, the whole environment and responsibilities change. Both of you need to adapt to these new changes, if not you will ended up stresses and leads to divorce...
So you see it does not make any difference at all. Once there is a change in teh equation be it living together before marriage or not. The relationship will be compromise if you cannot adapt to the changes..
take care..
2007-05-12 02:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together before marriage is a good way to find out a lot of things about your partner & you. But nothing starts for real until the marriage contract is signed. That little piece of paper changes everything. Children change things even more. Add all this up, and its a gamble either way. Good luck.
2007-05-12 01:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by Hondo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the most important thing is the amount of effort both are willing to put into having a successful relationship. I don't think it matters (success or no success) whether you live together first or not. It is a cheaper and easier to split if you are not married, and that may or not be a good thing....
I do think, as other answerers have stated, that it is very important to know the other person as well as possible.
2007-05-12 01:43:51 · answer #6 · answered by Lynn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife and I did the same thing, you always get one of 2 reactions some thinks it was a good idea and some think its this big sin. But living together helps you understand what your married life will be like. Better to find out your not really compatible and break up then to have to go thru divorce procedures. We have been married 14yrs and while our friends around us are divorcing we are still going strong.
2007-05-12 01:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-04-21 04:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by anastacia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat you by 20 years, Terri, but we're the same - lived together for two years, got marries because in the seventies it was still "the thing to do" and now 30 years later we're still the same. We've been through Hell and high Water, and come through it together. We swapped roles when the necessity came, and still share out the chores. Even at that we're both individuals, with individual lives and occupations, just living them together in harmony.
2007-05-12 01:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow your blessed!! This is nice to hear for a change! But whether you live together before marriage or not, it's hard to say if that really matters! What works for some dosen't work for others. Your very lucky, be thankful!!
2007-05-12 01:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋