What are the early signs to know if someone is controlling in a relationship?

Answer 1

if they are critical of you,, and your friends, your interest,,,,,,, if they seem to want to focus on themselves,, such as in their feelings, where they want to go,,,,, what to eat etc,,,,,,,, if they want to always know where you are,,,, and act like you are not capable of doing things/managing your own life , if they expect you to change to suit them

Answer 2

Jack chill down a bit, the one asking the question is only a level 1, she can't give thumbs up/down. The one getting thumbs up is a top contributor, some persons thinks that's enough for a thumbs up even though other answers are just as good.

Early signs would be that you always find yourself doing what the other person wants to do, even if you would rather do something else. Anything you suggest is put down and eventually you feel guilty/ashamed for even suggesting it. If you insist on doing something that the other person doesn't like you find the other person "pouting" and being in a bad mood. Once the event is over you'll be hearing about it and how it was all negative. Once again to make you feel guilty/ashamed for going there or doing it.
Things/persons the person doesn't like will be put down and painted in a negative way and you'll be reminded that you don't like the person if you like those things/persons. You will be urged to prove that you really do like the person, and the person will play on your guilt to make you prove it.

It's their way or no way. They avoid answering questions that are uncomfortable for them. It will always be someone else's fault not matter what happens unless they have something to gain from admitting guilt. They will make you feel guilty for wanting something that they don't want. (Emotional blackmail.) If they don't like your friends you'll find that you talk to them more and more often, and that goes for family too. The more isolated you are from friends and relatives the more control the other person gets over you.

Questions as "Where have you been today?" and "Who were you talking to?" are natural elements in a relationship and it's hard to tell when they asked because of a need to control and when they are asked because the other person care. The controlling person demanding to know and showing jealousy is more likely to happen when the controlling person feels more certain that you are under their control. Being aggressive towards persons that shows interest in you and/or talks negatively about the controlling person is also a common thing.

Thing is... by the time you realize that you are being controlled it's most often very hard to break free since it's been going on for a long time and the one doing the controlling has broken down your self confidence. A controlling person doesn't have to be physically abusive or violent, the controlling can be psychological and "invisible". Leaving the controlled doubting their own mind and sanity.

It's a topic close at heart and I know I'm rambling, but I hope I did manage to make some of it sound coherent.

Answer 3

Controlling people don't include other people in decision-
making processes. What is the first subject in a relationship?
The relationship itself. Perhaps the earliest sign of a
controlling individual is exclusion from defining the
terms of the relationship. If a clear definition for the
relationship is not established then the controlling individual
can bend the definition of the relationship to suit their
own agenda. Without a definition the controlling individual
might use lines such as "I don't know you that well" and
"I thought we were friends" such that all of the convenience
favors the controller.

Answer 4

Hands around your throat, gun at your temple.

These are sure signs that you need to look elsewhere.

Love and blessings Don

Answer 5

jealousy
always wanting to know where you were during the day...
JUDGING FROM THE LACK OF A "THUMBS UP", I WASN'T AWARE THAT YOU WERE ONLY SEEKING ANSWERS FROM FEMALES ONLY.

Answer 6

They demand, not ask, and expect too much.