What is the right age to settle down and get married?

Question

Hi, I'm a 20 year old girl, still a virgin, who's abstaining from sex till marriage. But what is the right age to settle down with someone and get married?

Answer 1

Hello, I am a retired man and have learnt a few lessons along the path of life. I have only one son and have never experienced the joy of a daughter. You are definitely on the right track my dear in saving yourself for your husband. Take your time and be choosy as it will be the most important decision in your life. Make sure that you have the same views as your future husband. Consider important things like children and what you want out of life. It is not a bad idea to sit down and think carefully, writing down how you see your future. You will now be at or approaching the perfect age to have children. I don't think there is really an ideal time to settle down, more importantly is that you choose the right man who has most of the attributes on your list. I suggest caution but not so much as waiting for the perfect man as there is no such thing. How you solve your differences will be a good guide as to your future happiness. I wish you well my dear.. Peter

Answer 2

that's so awesome ur saving yourself for marriage; i'm doing the same. i'm 19 and i have had a lot of friends get married (older and my age). my friend heather who is engaged made a really good point. she said wait until you're at least 22/23 because you are out of college and you are both just getting the feel out of where you stand and where you'll be career wise (plus u mature A LOT compared to when you're like 18-21) I prefer waiting until I'm about 25 to get married just because I have a lot I want to accomplish still. once u get married wait about 2-5 years before having kids so you can enjoy eachothers company because once you have kids it is a 24/7 job. age sometimes though is not an issue but for the most part its smart to wait until you're about 22/23 at the very least just because you go through so many changes until then. if ur waiting to have sex, there is no need to ever rush into marriage if that becomes an issue. u waited 20 years, u can wait 5 more. lol. hope that helps : /

Answer 3

I think 25 is a good age to settle down. Some women are dying to get married but I think that this is a mistake. People should go out date party and do all that stuff before getting tied down. This is why so many people get divorced.

Answer 4

Well, that entirely depends. I'm 28, some of my friends are married and have 2 children already - personally, the idea of this horrifies me!
It all depends on what you want out of life. I'm pretty independent, have travelled all over, and lived in different countries. As you approach 30, there is definetly more of a sense of urgency about dating and relationships - people seem more inclined to get their nails in, and its all about the long term.
Some people are of the mentaility, 'well, i'm with such & such person, I'm not getting any younger, I get on with her / him pretty well and i think i'm happy, so I'll marry them,'
For me personally, this would never do. I'd have to be head over heels in love, I'll know who the person is when i meet her, and am happy to wait for as long as it takes, rather then settle down with the wrong person.
Its easier for me to adopt this attitude of course, as women have a biological clock ticking away and are therefore more keen to settle and have children.
So, if you meet or have met the right guy, go for it. Though its better to have had a catalogue of relationships under your belt, so you can compare and be sure of who is right for you. And am not 100% sure if abstaining is such a great idea... What if you discover on your wedding night your husband suffers from premature ejaculation? or has a miniscule penis?
You'll know when its time....

Answer 5

The answer is: When you and your partner are ready. Take the commitment of marriage seriously and never look at it as something that you can just quit if it gets too rough. Make sure that you and your partner want to be with eachother for the rest of your lives through thick and thin. Some people are ready when they are 18, others may not be ready until they are in their 40's. Just take your time and don't be in a rush even when you have found "the one."

Answer 6

Tgere is no certain age to get married. My sister was engaged at 21 about a year ago and has just split with her fiance as she wants to go and live her life.

Everyone is different and marry at different stages in their lives. For me, I'm 23 and want to finish my education up to PhD level and travel before I settle down as there is so much I want to see and do in the world. The thought of settling down just now gives me the heebee jeebees!! hehe

You can only do what is best for you. You may get married next year or next decade. Who knows. Just wait until you are ready to settle and you have done everything you want to do beforehand. :-)

Answer 7

I married really young and it worked - friends married at 30 and were divorced at 32.

I dont think there is a right age.

I really admire that you are still a virgin - but fear that you may jump into a marriage too soon because you are putting extra pressure on because of the no sex before marriage thing.

There really is no shame in sex before marriage and I really think that people who tell you they didn't probably did - please dont put any unrealistic pressure on yourself regarding this....after all if you love the person how wrong could it be????

sorry if what I have said goes against your beliefs - My intention is not to offend you - if you stick to it - good on you.

Answer 8

That's a question many have wondered for centuries to have answered. and, there are some who are in their 30's who never had the maturity to get married and i have seen 18 year olds who were wise beyond their years and grew to have 35-45 years marriages, that were kind and respectful and full of love and a happy productive life and family..
I am so proud of you and your choice to respect yourself and the sanctity of marriage . Your parents must be great examples to have a daughter like you.. But, even the best examples, don't always have their children follow them, it is a choice.. ultimately each of us makes..
When you feel it is right, pray for guidance and wisdom to know, and if it is, i am assured you will too.

Answer 9

u still have time, dont be in a hurry. complete ur studies. acheive some thing become financially indepenent then think of marriaage . between 22-25 is the best age for girls to get married and 25-28 for men.

Answer 10

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