Gees, another teen pregnancy?

Question

Don't you guys think that adolescent catagory of Y!A needs to branch off a new catagory called 'teen pregnancys'?

Seriously, so many of the questions in this catagory are.... 'I just had sex with my boyfriend could I be pregnant?' and etc. Even these questions come from children as young as 12.

Where are these children's parents? Why are they not out there doing things teens should be doing?

I'm not some old lady ranting and raving about this. I am a teen. I'm 17. I'm not Chrisitian, but I've managed to keep it in my pants!


I understand that some of these Y!A users are just bored and are trying to amuse themselves.

I'm also not putting down these people but I do not believe that Y!A is the place to be asking these questions. That's why there are health clinics and parents and phone lines.


Sex isn't a game. It's dangerous. Why can't teens concentrate on their studies and leave sex for when they are mature enough to deal with the consequences???

mel_lenn…- You are a prime example. You can't even construct a simple sentence. Atleast wait untill it's 'legal'

Tho_down- Did you read my second to last paragraph? I understand that sex is an important part of evolution. I know how I was conceived but my parents were a lot older than 17! Well I believe it is completely unfair on the baby if the parent is uneducated and is unable to support herself and the baby.

I understand that life is a risk. Some risks are preventable, just like premature sexual activity.

I'm not hassling those who have had sex. It is their choice but if she is unable to live with the consequences then what about the baby?

My step sister had her first child at 17. She is a terrible mother. She is stressed all the time and she doesn't have the knowledge to answer some of her daughters questions.

My mother waited until she was 30, she went to University and she's travelled. I can definitly say my mother is a better role model than my step sister.



Thank you everyone for your answers! And stars!!

Answer 1

I agree with you...it disgusts me to see all of these children pregnant. Actually, it's gross. Sex is for adults, not children. I didn't have a problem keeping my pants on, so why cant this generation?

I'm glad someone said something!!!

Answer 2

Well i can't give you a story based on myself but i can based on my twin sister. When we were 17 she fell pregnant, she had been with her boyfriend for just over a year which wasn't the best but it wasn't so bad. She was also in college just like you, i'm not sure where abouts you are but we're in England so i do know that colleges and 'first and second year' of college is classed very different but she had only just started her course when she fell for her daughter. When other pregnant teens ask her how she coped, she says that it's "hard" but not as bad as people make out. It's probably down to the fact that she has a huge support system just like you mentioned also. And also she says how when you have a baby through things like college it makes you even more determined to do well for your little one. I could never imagine my life without my niece now, everyone adores Jada and my sister could never imagine not having her either. Trust me, people will give you the big lectures about how "bad" you are, and how "hard" it will be. Sure it's hard, it's hard on anybody regardless to age we're all human beings at the end of the day. But there's one thing for sure, i don't think there's any better gift than your own baby so whilst your battling tough times at college with the baby, just remember that :)

Answer 3

Hey

Unfortantly in todays society sex sells, even to a 5 yo, You can buy gstrings for them etc... I am an edu/Hsv student and this is a topic brought up quite alot. Kids are taught sex appeal today without being taught normality. If that makes sense. Also they dont have a chance to grow up. Turn on the tv look at the commercials and the actors/singers. Yes it is also the parents responabiliy but i think a wide spread community approach is needed to rectfy this problem.

Baby brain pretty bad sorry if this doesnt make sense

Answer 4

I think it is unfortunate when young people feel the need to ask complete strangers for advice,especially about issues of intimacy and pregnancy.Wabby not all teens have parents they can talk to.Not all parents give their children love and guidance let alone tell their children the facts of life. The internet provides an annonymous source of information and hopefully in a nonjudgemental way.These young people are at risk of seeking love and attention anywhere if they don't feel love at home.I don't think they even consider the consequences they just want to feel loved.

Answer 5

Considering, these young girls are seeking advice, solace, or some sort of validation on Y!A, is reflective of the lack of resources in their lives.

My casual observation is, girls who are sexually active at a tender age, or who become pregnant in their mid or early teens, usually come from homes where much is lacking. There is no single parameter that puts a child at risk. However, some risk factors are: low income, divorce, single parent, teen parents, two parents working, uneducated parents, parental alcoholism, parental drug addiction, domestic violence and absence of a extended family.

Many of these young girls, these children, come from a home where a multiplicity, of these factors are present. It may very well be representative, of their neighborhood and lives of their classmates; it is life as they know it. In their search for solace, validation, love and affection, they often meet a boy or young man, sometimes not so young man, who, for the moment, often appears to improve their life.

There may in fact be a rescue. However, most likely the male is from the same environment, and the young girl, will soon find herself pregnant and abandoned.

Answer 6

Kids are educated into the beliefs they entertain. Without the perpetual influx of the media which paints a picture of life as something it isn't, then the problem will continue forever, and the teens won't have a clue why they believe and do what they do. You are right. Sex is dangerous, but true love is forever. Kids have never been told that true love is real and trustworthy, so how would they know how to recognize the face of evil.

Answer 7

Tho_Down needs to get out of the ghetto and get some kind of morals. In looking at her other questions, I think that she's just a little defensive because her parents have no control over her. She does what she wants, and has little or no respect for people who have self-control.

I'll bet she's gonna be a momma of five kids before she's twenty two, also.

I was nineteen when I got pregnant with my son. I knew the consequences of my actions.

I don't know WTF the deal with with the 13 year olds having sex. I wasn't even THINKING that way when I was 13.

Answer 8

THANK YOU!

Finally, someone who understands. There should be a separate catergory for teen pregnancies. Whenever someone posts a question like that, I always want to tell them that this question has been asked like, a million times. But yes, teens do need to concentrate on their studies, instead of sex. When I hear how far some kids are going (and I'm in the 7th grade) I just count the minutes until I hear half the girls in my grade are pregnant.

Answer 9

Yeah parents should be keeping a closer eye on their children but they dont. Thank your parents. I guess having babies @ 16 is the new "cool" some 16 year olds are better parents then some of the older women! I was 19 when i got preg. and 20 when I had her and I wouldnt have it any other way. I am married living on my own and not having my parents help me. I think it all depends on the people

Answer 10

it depends on the society you have been brought up in.. i think that the problem starts from the way the parents have brought their children up... it depends on the moral value that they have inculcated in their kids...

im 20 and i never had sex... its really something important. the teens are very much aware of the consequences of having early sex!!! they just do not care!!!! they have too much freedom.

well just because you are 13, it doesn't mean you can do anything!!!! there are some limits.... or at least be protected!!!