We've been together for 4 years, and it's only been in the past three monthes that she's been this way, and it's driving me crazy. Any speculations on to what the ****'s up?
2007-05-11 21:45:47 · 18 answers · asked by John Paul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are many possibilities so its best to talk to her about this...communication is very important....
2007-05-11 21:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know men think no sex means the world will fall apart ;) lol, but lets look at bigger picture.
is she stressed at work?
financial problems?
issues with friends or family?
us ladies cannot relax sometimes if other things playing on our minds.
maybe you've both fallen into a rut.
also, sustaining the intense levels of sex you had in the beginning is not completely realisitic! or maybe you've become a complacent lover and not satisfying her as much??
is she acting oddly in other ways? going out more?calling people more? coming in later? the worse case scenario is shes having an affair, as most men think this immediately!
but its prob not the case. without extra info i cant guess for you.
the best thing to do?
take her out for a fab dinner somewhere that she'll love. and TALK to her, ask her if everything is ok in work/life/love? if she asks why, tell her that you've noticed she seems a little distracted recently and you were wondering if there is anything you can do to help?
do not nag about sex or lack of it or she'll think thats all you're bothered about!!
good luck
2007-05-12 04:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open communication is the key to a successful relationship. There could be a number of things that have absolutely nothing to do with you. Is your relationship ok?, or do you base that on how much sex you get? Respect her, talk to her, ask for honesty and sincerity, and be man enough to handle what ever she comes back at you with. 4 years of dating, I'm thinking she wants to get married but not sure about your wants, this could definitely put a damper on your sex life. Do you want her to be your wife, if so ask her to marry you. Your sex life just might get even better. Talk and dont jump to conclusions. It's not all about you! Good luck!
2007-05-12 05:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by always2blame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself how good yor sex is. How long does it last? Do you know where the g spot is and how to work it to stimulate it. How hard is your sex organ? Is your sex spontaneous or always in the bedroom with the same position? It is hard to face up to this but it matters. There is a website called dy Dr. Linplaza that can give you the tips and skills you need to make all of this happen.
2007-05-12 04:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by hashumor919 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be one of many things:
- Has she recently put on weight or could she be suffering low self esteem?
- Have you not been giving her much attention - always out with mates or something like that?
- Do you rarely do anything romantic?
- Could she be seeing someone else?
- Stress of some kind at work or with family etc
If you can easily say you maybe have not been putting enough effort in then make some effort, otherwise best talk to her.
Good luck
2007-05-12 04:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by Tinker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would directly say that whateveru r doing is wrond its better o ask forgiveness for ur doing from the Lord and then try tyo have marriage in a right manner.
2007-05-12 04:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by Regi V 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you have been together for while maybe the excitement is gone. Talk with her and tell her what is on your mind. Have you considered you might be satisfying only yourself?
2007-05-12 04:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by misserica76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
, lucky you, you are not marry to her and have no children, she lost interested at you and the desires to have you gone, that is why many married couple said trapped in a dead marriage. time to say goodbye and free from each other, don't bother to discuss it, find some else, I had been there.I am sure you had been in that situation before when you lost interested in you ex. girl, yo wish she is out of sight and out of mind.
2007-05-12 04:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by ubon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take her out then remind her with the good moments that u shared together if u lover her tell her that try to get that feeling when u guyz kissed for the first time
2007-05-12 04:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by azizman2010 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's ready to be more than a girlfriend.
Or maybe she is loosing interest not just in sex, but in you.
Or maybe she has found someone who interests her more.
Best way to find out is to ask her.
2007-05-12 04:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋