Am i being too sensitive?

Question

i've worked at this particular company for about eight months now, and I've enjoyed every minute of it.However i notice that they'll have get together's and will not invite me, they'll go lunch and never invite me or even have the nerve to ask me if I'd like anything back, but I somehow ignored up into today.One of my co-workers in my deparment last day was today,and I asked MY supervior if they were doing anything for his leave, he told me NO, so as I left to go home i notice that everyone in my department including one of my new -co workers were gone, so as I was leaving one of my co-workers in a differnt department, came up to me and asked me how come I didn't go out with the rest of my department to celebrate my co-workers's leave, my mouth dropped to the floor, and I told him my supervisor said they weren't doing anything plus, noone invited me, so my question is what would you do in my situation and why am i being treated rudely?

FYI.My supervisor is Thailand, My new co-worker, which is my 2nd supervisor is Chinese, the co-worker from work is Jewish, two of the other ladies that went to lunch are Hispanic, and i was also told by one of my black co -workers that they do they same thing to her.

To *Unhappiness* For your information , I wanns comment back on how can "racism" still exist in today's society, whew I almost fell out my chair because obviously you must be living under a rock or an idiot I'll go with the former, secondly, where the heck do you get off telling me that I'm making more out to be a "racist" thing, I'm not making it out to anything I'm just stating the facts that's it and that's all silly.

i don't have to grow anything, but realize that even in the 21st century with everyhting this country has been through, blacks are still seen as the n****

Answer 1

Hmm...well it does seem like they are leaving you out on purpose. If you have a full life outside of work then chalk it up to Their Loss--Who Cares? If it really bothers you then ask them about it. Work sponsored events should include everyone at work.

Answer 2

Their rudeness toward you is unforgivable. Don't be rude back at them because then you will have dropped to their level. I would have thought that it was just a case of pure thoughtlessness until you mentioned that your supervisor lied to you. The next work day would have been the perfect time to smiling ask the supervisor if "Jake enjoyed the going away party last night?" The supervisor would have known he had been caught in lie and put on a very hot spot and might not be so quick to lie to you in the future. I wish I could tell you not to take it personal but it is personal and hurtfull. You have two choices 1. Suck it up and hope that they start to include you as you gain seniority (although your new co-worker going to the farewell tends to disprove this) or 2. Talk with your supervisor's supervisor (everyone has one except for God and for all we know there might be a Mrs. God) or talk to your EEO rep about how to deal with it. But as long as you aren't discriminated against in work situations or are the subject of racist remarks you are just going to have to stay silent and do a slow burn when the "gang" trots off to their special whatever. And if they ever do ask you to go with them you should just tell them that you appreciate the offer but you have plans for today but ask me tomorrow and if I don't have anything going I might join you. Just remember to be bigger and better not little and bitter like them. My personal take is that I wouldn't associate with them outside the office even if they begged me.

Answer 3

Your co-workers are certainly being rude. If it bothers you so much, why not just come right out and ask one of them, "I hear you had a get together for Joe Friday night. Why wasn't I invited? I would have liked to wish him good luck in the future, too."

Or, if any of them are friendly to you, invite her to go to lunch, and ask her why you aren't included in things.

Otherwise, if you like your job, just forget about these inconsiderate people. They have no manners, and probably wouldn't be good friends anyway!

Many years ago, my daughter got a job in a lab cleaning mouse cages. There were 4-5 other people in the lab, and they totally ignored her. Never included her in the breaks or lunches. And in time, even made nasty remarks to her, such as, "The only reason you got this job was because of your looks." As if 30,000 mice cared what she looked like! She put up with it for about two years, and finally asked for a transfer---and luckily got it.

So if you are really unhappy in this situation, find a different job or a transfer, if it's a big company. Life IS too short to work in a hostile environment. Good luck!

Answer 4

It's hard to believe that it is racist in today's society and with the existing laws, but you make it sound as though it probably is. Since you like your job, just ignore the whole thing. In the long run it is definitely better NOT to be part of a social group at work. It leads often to more trouble than pleasure.

Sorry to hear how you are treated, but hope you can just think of all the good things about your job, your life and family and let this "little and unimportant" thing pass. Good luck.

Answer 5

Listen, You better grow some tough skin dear beacuse this is life. I see it here in the military. don't let it bother you. You co-worker don't sign your check. the boss does and if you have a good relationship with the boss, or higher - ups, your co-worker are then dime a dozens.

Answer 6

Thta's so rude... I think you should have a profesional behaviour there and ignore them from now on. Show them you don't care.. wow , sorry for you. Good luck!

Answer 7

Throw some wild parties at your place and only invite who YOU want. As for your work colleagues......fuggem.

Answer 8

i don't think you're being too sensitive...it's very rude of them to leave you out. everyone should be given an opportunity to be a part of the group.

Answer 9

I THINK THEY JUST DIDN'I LIKE YOU. MAYBE THAY FELT THAT YOU WHERE GOING TO TAKE THERE JOB. BUT ANYWAY U SHOULD NOT LET THAT BRING U DOWN YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE MUCH BETTER THEN THEY ARE.PS. I LIKED YOUR QUESTION

Answer 10

maybe they don't really like you ... ? Stands to reason, right? They'll work with you, but don't want to socialise with you?