I've always felt as though I was different than other people. I've never had a friend in my life and constantly experience isolation from the outside world. I feel that this has everything to do with my appearance as I've had no luck meeting other guys my age in bars and clubs. (I'm a gay 26 year old guy)
I've been to a psychiatrist as well as a psychologist and social worker throughout the last few years in order to seek counseling and they have all said that I'm an attractive guy, yet that's only been said by medical professionals, so I have problems believing the source. They all have diagnosed me with Body Dysmorphic Disorder, but again what they say doesn't seem to relate to my personal experience with the outside world. This all makes me wonder if someone can experience happiness even if they're unattractive? Do you think it's possible to have a significant other and friends if you're not an attractive guy?
2007-05-11 18:48:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a lot of people have friends and bf who are not the most attractive
2007-05-19 18:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by jigadee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence is key. Right now, you're insecure, which is understandable. But if you'd like to date, you have to be confident about yourself. Try losing a bit of weight. It will make you feel a lot better about yourself. My boyfriend is overweight but I really don't care at all, I think he is the best looking guy in the world and I love him more than anything. But he's confident. He has an amazing personality and everyone likes him! You need to take a change in your life. I'm not sure where you live but it's almost summer here, so if it is where you live, start going for walks. Then go into jogs. Then go into runs. And keep the distance increasing. Try doing sit ups or push ups as well in your house, start off with 10 a day then, say, add 5 every week. That will make a difference! That will help get you more confident. Also, try to join a club or some different activity. I'm not sure where you live or anything of course, but if there is a club that interests you then join it! You'll be more interesting that way too. Which will boost your confidence as well. Don't let rejection get to you. Most guys get rejected most of the time. It's how life goes. Keep trying and don't give up! Be positive and confident!
2016-03-19 03:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Nedra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, maybe you haven't noticed but probably 75% of the people in the world are not particularly attractive. And most of them seem to be at least content with their lives. Where did you get the idea tha only pretty people can be happy? Maybe you're going after shallow guys who think they have to be with somebody who looks like a movie star. Look for someone with a little depth to his character next time.
2007-05-11 18:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by Alice K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe this yes. you seem socially akward, thats all. a sort of wallflower. Instead of seeming a shrink, try to find ways to develop social ediquite. you see this kind of thing in people who are home schooled; they have more trouble learning how to interact with people. As for being unattractive, well ive never seen you. now from what i know about BDD it could be that you have it, i dont know how you behave. maybe you think that you arent looking good but that doesnt mean everybody does. it might be hard to set aside what you think, but try building self confidence. it will really help you in the long run. especially in the dating scene.
2007-05-11 19:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by pikko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have some time, read about the law of attraction. it doesn't have to do with physical appearance. it has to do with the way you are thinking. i remember reading a part in the book where they state something like, "if you think positive, only positive things will start coming your way"
i believe you'll find happiness. he'll come by, don't worry about that. he might be right under your nose and you just don't know it yet. things like this usually come unexpectedly. one day, it'll just happen. just sit back and enjoy life right now.
2007-05-11 18:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by bluesgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is but you are letting this pull your spirit down because you are wanting to make it happen but it's gotta happen to you. Work on your confidence, get out and walk in the park or go to the gym for exercise is a natural endorphine and will make you feel better. As soon as you are happy with yourself you will find that you will attract friends and a lover without trying.
2007-05-11 18:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mamma Mia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Six steps to find a mate
(1) Love yourself
(2) Clean up your act (Curtail any bad habits, clean up your house, car and practice good grooming and hygiene tips).
(3) Expand your want list (not all attractive men look like movie stars).
(4) Do what you enjoy
(5) Accept rejection gracefully
(6) Promote yourself (Tell friends that you're looking but don't whine about it).
2007-05-14 04:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by JLee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Negativity breeds negativeness in life, so just from what you say, I would guess a lot of eople are put off by you from the vibe you give off.
Try changing certain things and think positively, instead of wearing the same clothes all the time, buy new ones, dress up, do things differently than what you do now.
2007-05-11 18:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lief Tanner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The right person will come along at the right time and see the real you. sounds like you have low self esteem cos you don't like yourself you give off that like an oder and it makes others stay away try working on your esteem start liking who you are for what you are and you will start attracting others into your life. STOP JUDGING YOURSELF on what you THINK others are thinking cos it may not be true. Act like you belong in what ever situation that you may find yourself in. Best of luck.
2007-05-11 18:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by Shaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We give our own lives meaning. It's always our own judgments and words that have the final say with ourselves. I think anything is possible and we can either live life as an adventure or accept that we choose not to take the chance. Either way we should try to find happiness within ourselves.
2007-05-11 18:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by the Boss 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what? i think so. i think that there is someone out there for somebody. And i think that this world was created for people to live here in peace and happiness. i think that if you try to be more outgoing and try to talk to girls then things can get much better. try to convince women to just give you 1 chance to get to know you. Because im sure you have a lot to offer. good luck
2007-05-19 15:33:40 · answer #11 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋