So I'm 23, I'm a virgin, I would say never been kissed (or not in a loving way), and never had a relationship....
I'm not ugly or anything, I'm sexy, but guys around never seem to care, Like if I get noticed, usually I'm overseas, or something like that.
Are there any other girls like me? Or I have really bad luck?
2007-05-11 18:08:00 · 29 answers · asked by litha_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I didn't kiss a guy in any way til I was about 21. Not even a peck on the cheek to someone i wasn't related to.
Guys are sometimes afraid to ask pretty girls out fearing rejection or assuming they are already taken.
Just wait, the right guy will come along. But don't be afraid to let your friends know you are looking to meet somebody - who knows they may fix you up on a date.
Maybe you just need to meet people out of your usual circle.
2007-05-11 18:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually I've become more convinced over time that I've had good luck. I'm also 23 and am in the same boat, pretty much. Sure, sometimes I get down and out about it, but there have been guys who've wanted to get busy and all that jazz and I've chosen against it--even when the attraction has been there. But, for me, it's a deliberate choice to be a virgin. I'd like to be kissed though. That would be nice. :-p hehe.
EDIT: After reading the comment left by "The Boss" I decided to look through the questions you've asked. In one you were worried about being pregnant from a one night stand (9 months ago), in another you were worried about your first time having sex (8 months ago), and now you are a virgin. How many times have you lost your virginity? Or does it not count if you aren't in your own country--like the rule that it's not really cheating if it's in a different area code? Perhaps you should consider talking with a counselor--there's no shame in it.
2007-05-12 01:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by joy_like_a_fountain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anything is wrong with you. Maybe you just haven't found the right guy yet. I'm just like you. I'm very attractive and I have a great personality, but I've never had a real relationship or a real kiss before. It's not that guys don't notice me it's just that they don't notice the right parts of me. All they seem to care about is my body and what I can physically do for them, but I need a guy to like me for more than just the outside. And of course all the good ones are taken LOL. Just hang on and wait for the right guy to come along.
P.S. Personally, I think that you being a virgin at 23 is Great because in the bible it says to wait until you're married.
2007-05-12 01:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by toocutemisspink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a virgin at 23 is no indication that something is wrong. Acctually, a girl's virginity is one thing that has to do with her body usually becomes more prized as she gets older. At 22, I'm a virgin by choice.
Guys are silly sometimes. They'll walk right by a red hot fox if she is not displaying any cues or signals that say, "Notice me [in that kinda' way]" or if she has cues that say, "I am not a sexual person."
For 18 years, I wore high-rise jeans and hid behind jackets, flannel shirts, glasses, and long hair. Not only did guys not notice me, they sometimes antagonized me. In college, I cut my hair and discovered low-rise jeans and small shirts.
Immediately, guys noticed--including one chiselled blonde who could (and did) take any girl he wanted. Before making some changes, I never thought I could attract a guy of this caliber.
Years later, I got contacts and a high-quality flat iron. And wow.
The point is, changing a few things can make a big difference. You don't need to run around lookin' like a tart--just give guys a few cues to let him know you're desireable. I'd love to conduct an experiment where I put Jessica Alba in glasses and non-feminine clothes. Same face, same body--just totally unadvertised. I bet much fewer guys would notice her.
2007-05-12 01:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by YearoftheRat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your at that point in your life where you are wanting more and ready to experience a relationship. I'm not good at giving dating advise but if you want to get noticed then you have to put yourself out there by going places and meeting people. When the right person comes along it will be the right time. There's nothing wrong with being 23 and a virgin. I met my husband at 25 and I was still a virgin. Best decision I ever made. It's a personal choice which shows respect for oneself.
2007-05-12 01:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by Orion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may be intimidated by you. Check out some of the other females and see how they dress and act. Why are men attracted to them? I mean decent women, not the wild and crazy ones. Your first time will be no great deal if you do not care for the guy your with. You will just wind up with an urge every so often and still in the same boat. Be a little aggressive it won't hurt and you will be in control, by choice! Go for it. Good Luck
2007-05-12 01:17:24 · answer #6 · answered by Modern Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you enjoying your life? I waited until I was quite old to get married, but I was so busy doing things that I didn't mind so much. It's a funny thing that when you are happy with who you are and where you are in your life then someone does come along and seems to complete the whole package. Don't worry, just try to enjoy where you are right now and you will start seeing all kinds of interesting opportunities. When you are travel ling you may be different than at home, what makes that difference? You are enjoying the experience, right?
2007-05-12 01:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by udontreallydou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 22 and a tall, great looking guy with a great job and a dog and I live on my own. I often think the same thing about myself but then I just realize that love comes to many people at different times and Im thankful that it is taking so long because now I know that it will be well worth the wait.
2007-05-12 01:12:15 · answer #8 · answered by Devin S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when girls are pretty or smart, guys are intimidated. usually guys approach girls that seem like "easy" targets. thats why medium looking girls get asked out more. u dont need to "put yourself out there more" just think of what kind of guy you want to meet and then figure out where a guy like that would hang out. for example, dont look for an artist at a bar. also talk with some guy friends for opinions, not other girls because you won't get accurate info on this topic. if you include more background, i can give you more male opinion.
2007-05-12 01:25:36 · answer #9 · answered by sounds right to me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart....there's nothing wrong with being a virgin and 23. Your still young and have plenty of time to meet that someone special. Besides...your virginity is something you can only give up one time.
If you were my girlfriend,I would feel very blessed by your innocence.
So....let not your heart be troubled!!
2007-05-12 01:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋