Ever since my ex left, my self esteem has really taken a dive. It wasn't that great before, b/c he used to say he had a "skinny fetish" and that's why he needed porn. Plus, I'm pretty shy. After having two kids, I still have 40 pounds to lose, so I realize I'm not the thinnest, but here's my question... What's the best way a shy person, w/ low self esteem, newly single, can get out and make friends again? What are your suggestions? I'm only 21, yet I feel 70. :)
2007-05-11 17:50:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not necessarily looking for someone to date... Just friends, guys/girls. I had lost touch w/ alot of mine for different reasons during the relationship (moving, college, they had their own relationships, jobs, etc.)
2007-05-11 17:59:59 · update #1
direct answer: go to events where dialogue with strangers is encouraged (warning: if you go to something political and you ask someone what they think about such and such, be prepared to not go anywhere for a while).
indirect answer: you have some fundamental issues with who you are and how you perceive yourself. you can dye your hair, buy new shoes, lose 40 lbs.(remember it's not about weight, it's about health), move to another city, but those things won't change the scars you have or help you overcome the obstacles of your character. this seems like a great opportunity to focus on being a better mother and a more responsible citizen of the planet. gandhi, aristotle, hume, descartes, singer, and millman are authors you might want to learn more about. good luck. remember it's all about your wonderful kids now.
2007-05-11 18:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by natecarr4499 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should take some time and stay solo for a little bit. You don't ALWAYS have to be in a realtionship, ya know.
But other than that, try and hang out with your friends, go places, do new things, meet new people, etc. Just keep thinking positive, be open, and don't be nervous. You only have one life to live - live it to its fullest. What's life like without taking any risks?
Just hang in there; there's always someone out there for someone.
2007-05-12 00:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to here the news. Confidence to me is the number one contributer to finding people. If you are confident in yourself then you attract positive attention. Do not feel down in the dumps. Be the person you know you can be and be happy. Love yourself for who you are, and only make changes for you. You are strong enough to make it through. Nobody wants to hang around the depressed. So get up and keep your eye on your goals. be happy... My personal faith is what keeps me positive and confident that I can make it through all.
2007-05-12 00:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sergeant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, the best thing to do would be go out with some girl friends & have fun... dont force yourself into meeting someone because it never happens that way... you will meet someone when you are ready!!! go out to new places & try different things your not used too... Good Luck!!! :)
2007-05-12 00:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lozza J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yahoo singles is a good place to start.
e-mail me if you just want to talk. I had a rough time right after I got divorced too.
2007-05-12 00:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by answer man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋