OK, I'll be 20 this July and I am still a virgin. I have not had many relationships in my life because I only want to date someone who is worth it. I've made the mistake of dating someone for the hell of it but I won't again and I haven't. I am just wondering, what do you think a guy will do when he finds out? I mean, it's not like I am seeing anyone now but I've been thinking about it a lot lately. I'm just worried the guy will bolt after I tell him this. I have had chances in the past to have sex but it wasn't the right time and friends started having kids at 16/17 and I didn't want to be one of them. I think it's a good thing but a lot of people think it's a little on the pathetic side.
Thoughts?
2007-05-11 17:44:38 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not pathetic. It's admirable.
Virginity in a woman your age, in this culture, is a rare thing--and more valuable because of it. You have one opportunity to give it to a man, and to offer it is no small honor. Make sure he's worth it.
2007-05-11 17:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First things first being a virgin at 20 is far from pathetic. It is the opposite its very admirable.
With the STD's out there more people should have the same morals.
Second of all if you are dating a guy and he finds out your a virgin and runs, well then let him, he wasn't the right guy for you and isn't worth wasting any time getting upset or hurt over.
Stick to your beliefs that is what will make you true to yourself and make others respect you.
2007-05-11 17:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by LISA R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a very strong woman, because alot of people fall into that trap. I lost my virginity at a young age and I regret it tremendously, I am thankful because I dont have kids but you are set aside from everyone else because you still have yours, that's makes you a real piece of art. So I suggest that you keep it as long as you possibly can or until you think its really the right time. I dont care how old you are, and if he would leave just because you are a virgin then that tells you he was with you for the wrong reasons anyway. So beware of that because you alwso have some guys that want to be the one to take your virginity and they will still leave. So again I really commend you because losing your virginity is a really big deal, and you want to make sure you lose it to the right person. Good luck
2007-05-11 17:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by cosmetologistbeauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guy will bolt, you really don't have anything to worry about. Most won't find a 20 year old virgin strange, it's not out of the norm. Don't listen to anyone who thinks it's pathetic, they are only jealous that they didn't wait for the right person too.
That being said, most men will be taken aback for a second and then be happy that you consider them special.
2007-05-11 17:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tennish....you did the right thing and I tip my hat to you and the heck with what other said or think about you not giving yourself up at the age of the other girls (16/17). You're among a few who didn't give into peer pressure to have sex at early age. My opinion that sex have cause more young single mom at an early age. Most of them drop out of school to have their child and may or may not go back and finish school. At lease you know being a teen mom is not for you. I hope that other young teenager girls eyes would open up like yours were when coming to sex.
Listen stop worry about what guys think if you're a virgin. If you going to worry yourself gray over it, if they don't ask, don't tell. You do what is right by you and the other things will fall in place.
2007-05-11 18:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! There is nothing wrong with being a 20 year old virgin, I kid you not.
Who cares what other people think of you? If they don't like u cuz of that then they aren't worth your time.
I actually applaud u for waiting, wait til the time is right and with the right person. You don't wanna give your body up to somebody who isn't gonna love u do you? If you're in a serious relationship and u trust the other person, then okay maybe, but even then, who cares if you're a virgin.
You aren't pathetic.
2007-05-11 17:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by Wayne D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the guy finds out and bolts after you tell him he wasn't worth your time anyways. If he sticks around make sure he not just sticking around to try and be the first some guys get off on sleeping with virgins. Don't do it just to get it over with some say to wait till your married and that's good if I knew I was going to end up with the wonderful man I am with know I would of waited for him.
2007-05-12 04:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by ness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch out. Guys eat that stuff up. For some reason, so many guys want to be a girls first. It doesn't make sense to me. Find someone that you really like, when you think it is starting to move in that direction, simply let him know where you stand and make sure that he is okay with it. Just because he says "That's cool. I really respect that you feel that way." doesn't mean he's sincere. See if he says the same thing three weeks later.
2007-05-11 17:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me no guy is going to bolt just because your a virgin. Unless of course all he wanted was to get into your pants and he thinks that will be impossible. Then either way they aren't worth your time or worry. You ARE NOT pathetic. I think a guy who really cares for you would be quite happy you didn't give it to every Tom Dick and Harry!
2007-05-11 17:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not weird to be a virgin at 20. And you should not be racing to lose your virginity because of social pressures (whether they're perceived or real). Do it when the time is right for you and whoever your partner might be.
Your decision to wait to have sex with someone you find "worth it" is admirable.
2007-05-11 17:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by StellaBtheWriter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its definitely good to still be a virgin....I mean, I'm not anymore but I waited and when I did lose it it was to the guy I'm still with today...and even if we don't last forever, I'll be glad I lost it to him because he's everything to me and has been a big part of my life and was a friend for even longer..... It's something you shouldn't be ashamed of...maybe casual sex being completely wasted would be a bit shameful....so.
Just be wise in your decision.... besides from what I hear, guys like virgins.
2007-05-11 17:49:19 · answer #11 · answered by contrabandamanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋