this is a two part question both having to do with...(how do i say it w/o getting flagged??) you pleasing yourself. if your dating someone and have been for awhile do you think of her when you do it or do you think of someone else? ever think about an ex while doing it? and also if you were to have s e x at least 4 times a week some times as much as 9 or 10 times a week do you still please yourself? does that mean that your girl isnt pleasing you enough? and when youare having s e x do you think of other women? okay so it was more than a two part but please let me know...i want to understand. oh yeah and if u do think of other people does it mean anything like you would rather be with her than your girl? or should your girl do other things that the other girl your thinking of does? help me understand PLEASE
2007-05-11 17:17:23 · 7 answers · asked by DP 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i understand its natural for him, i also know he loves me its just ive asked him about it and he vegly answered and then he got mad when i asked him to explain i dont know if he was embarrased or what i just want to understand best and only hope he thinks of me like he says he does
2007-05-11 17:35:22 · update #1
That is an interesting question. But I can only give my perspective on the issue. The answer do you only think of your girlfriend or spouse when you ______, I would have to say no most guys do not think about their partner during this time. This is a private time and should be kept that way. Yes it is possible even if you are getting on three or four times a day to still have the urge. Do not blame yourself for something that is natural in guys. Just because he may do it, does not mean that he does not love you. It is a need that has been with him since puburty and he has learned to fill that need. It is natural and healthy. You relationship is fine as long as you realize that it is a natural thing that happens.
2007-05-11 17:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sergeant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of questions. I would have no idea of the percentages but I know that a lot of my friends male and female have thought of other people when having sex, it does not mean they want to be with who they might secretly fantisize about. As far as the amount of time the guy in question is looking for pleasure, in all honesty it sounds like a lot to me, actually it sounds like he is almost sexually addictive. If you are having sex with this guy as much as you say you are, it sounds to me like you are doing more than your fair share. You also sound like you are worrying WAY too much about this. Ask yourself this, does this person honestly care for you or love you? If you can't answer those questions with a "yes" then my suggestion would be to dump this oversexed guy and find someone who will not only share intimate sexual moments with you, but might actaully take a walk with you and talk to you or do other things with you that do not require you to be naked.
2007-05-12 00:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by Spartacus34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, almost every man fantasizes about other women sometimes. This does NOT mean that he does not love his girlfriend, and it does NOT mean that she is not pleasing him. We men are just like that. (A few are not, and many women are like this too, but I'd say I'm making a safe generalization.) And even if you are getting lots of really good sex, you may want to masturbate every now and then. I know it's sometimes hard for women to understand, but please don't worry about your boyfriend fantasizing. He can be totally in love with you and still do that. (If Lindsay Lohan were having great sex with me every day, I'd be fantasizing about someone else sometimes.)
2007-05-12 00:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by andronicus37m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kkkk wowwwww too many questions for 1 onlly answer well first is not all about sex and is not all about nt having it but wahat i am saying is that u should have one to thre times what ever u want but it has to have new technicques and new positions and last long and feel good make it hurt other wise ur not pleasing eaach other enough if that is whats happening to u let me knw if u get i try to tell u and if it will help ur situation
2007-05-12 00:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by JAIME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is one of those times where you really need to be asking these questions to the one you are asking about. what I may do mayor may not be the same as his reasons for it. If you have a strong trusting relationship, then by asking him you might get even more spice in your life
2007-05-12 00:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by Dfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many girls worry about this, but you should not worry about this. It is a guy thing. All guys do it. You will never find one that does not. It is not about you at all. I am sure he is very pleased with you if you do it as often as you say.
2007-05-12 00:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by david 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever makes u happy
2007-05-12 00:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by queencoleman32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋