We've only been together for a short time and he's already asked me to marry him several times. We haven't even slept together. Is there any paticular reason why a guy would want to get married sooooo fast? Please give me some help!!!!!
2007-05-11 15:38:07 · 18 answers · asked by strawberries 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex is simply an act. Marriage is a commitment of his wanting to be WITH YOU. Marry someone who you enjoy talking to and find interesting because this will still be there when the sex has lost its 'urgency'.
And as another person said "some guys just want to be married". Those whose parents were happily married see this as the most fullfilling thing they can do in life. Everything else falls in behind it.
Remember, boys know the Cinderella story too and some just want to be the lucky Prince who gets to live happily ever after.
If you have doubts then let him know and don't worry about not being pressured for sex. If the passion is in his kiss, eyes and hands for you, you can be sure he is 'normal'. He just might be an old fashioned young man who believes in sex in marriage only.
Good luck
2007-05-11 15:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by sag_kat2chat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a trick for you to sleep with him so if you are saying that you want sleep with him until you are married then don't give in just because he ask you to marry him. And if you don't think that you have known him long enough for you to be thinking about married then don't rush your self take your time and make should that he is what he say he is. Sometime we can meet the wolf in sheep clothing.
2007-05-11 22:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by kool aid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You certainly don't have to sleep with someone to know that you want to be with them for a very long time. He may know that you are the love of his life. And he may be looking for a secure relationship, tired of dating around. There are a lot of reasons guys want to get married. A friend of mine told me he decided to marry the girl he was dating when he got home from work one day and there was a huge pile of his dirty clothes that needed to be washed.
2007-05-11 22:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
question: why does he have to sleep with you for him to ask for your hand in marriage? obviously to him you have displayed wife qualities without having sex and he feels the need to make you his lady. have you guys discussed the whole marriage thing and told each other how you feel about marriage? if not, i suggest you do that before you make a decision as to whether or not you will accept his proposal. if you think its too soon for him to be asking you that question, then let him know how you feel instead of keeping it inside because you blow up about it one day and that won't be good. but don't think that something is wrong because the man wants to marry you although you guys have never had sex. remember, back in the day, women were virgins before they got married (until the 60's hit and all hell broke loose!) and although you may not be one, perhaps he wants to keep that idea of purity in his head of you. remember, sex is special and it is something you only share with some one special. he considers you to be special and is asking for your hand in marriage so you guys could share the specialness of sex.
2007-05-11 22:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that people seem to think that you have to sleep with someone before you get married? Maybe he is just trying to save himself for the one person he truly loves? Besides, sex isn't everything, I promise you. Eventually, ya'll will get tired of it. As to why he want's to get married really fast, maybe it is because he likes you, and thinks that you and him would be a perfect match. That's what my reasoning would be.
2007-05-11 22:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by smart guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend probably has a lot of respect and love for you and may have been raised to not have sex outside of marriage,so maybe he loves you enough to keep you right in God's eyes.Tell him you want a long engagement(1-2 years)and then see what his reaction is,see how long he is willing to wait for you to give him the greatest gift of all(your body)
2007-05-11 22:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by Pitdog1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One possibility is he's infatuated or other one could be he really loves you and would want you have the most intimate moments with you once you get along.
But as you really seem worried and confused about this, just speak it out to him and yeah before you give him your consent or turn him down, think wise and think twice!!!
2007-05-11 22:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by rhea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my boyfriend are that way/ were engaged but we havent slept with each other. If you love each other sleepin with each other shouldnt be a top priority. If anythin you should just love each others presence and such. I know that this might sound weird too you. I just know alot of guys who just want someone to claim as their own.
2007-05-11 22:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by cutiepiejessrox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just not be one of those guys who sleep first then get married... or he takes his beliefs seriously. You dont need to be
in the bed to just be married.... as long as you love him you two will be OK
2007-05-11 22:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by rick08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is very insecure and wants to have someone to control. When men push for marriage very early, it shows that they are anxious to have control over their significant other.
He wants control so he can eventually be abusive without realizing it...either way you look at it, this is not a good sign.
2007-05-11 23:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by sweetdreams99279 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋