My bf & I were close friends 16 years ago. We remained good friends for many years & while he always wanted to take our friendship to the next level, I resisted. We eventually lost touch of each other & went our separate ways. I've always thought of him over the years and wondered if I made a mistake to not give our relationship a romantic chance.
Well, I have since married. After 8 years into the marriage, I filed for divorce. It was around this time that I found my old friend! It'd been 10 years since we had even seen each other! We began to talk and see each other & almost immediately we fell madly in love, planning our future together.
I am now divorced and ready to move forward with my life with my old friend/new love. However, he has become somewhat withdrawn and concerned. He recently initiated a temporary break because he says he wants me to make sure that I'm not rebounding. He says we need to rediscover our friendship to be sure that our love is real & lasting. Advice??
2007-05-11 14:13:03 · 4 answers · asked by Laura 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think he's right... because i wouldn't want to just be the person that's a rebound, taking care of u when ur most vulnerable, then finding someone else... besides if u two are madly in love, it'll follow through, just give it time, you've waited years so what's a little break, right? I'm sure it'll be fine. it just shows that he cares, he wants to make sure things are going to work this time... and trust me everything happens for a reason, like how u found him right after the divorce!. just go with the flow, it'll be fine!
take care - hope i helped!
2007-05-11 14:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me a "break" is a signal that the person wants to end the relationship --- in this case i could not say --- i just know that being with a lady will let me know very quickly if its an infatuation or the real thing ---- being apart does not achieve anything --- best wishes
2007-05-11 21:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's taking it slow, that's good.
You essentially are on the rebound, so take it slow yourself and make sure you're not just so happy to be free that you're latching onto your friend harder than you normally would.
Good luck.
2007-05-11 21:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go along with it if it is meant 2 be then everything will be fine.
2007-05-11 21:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋