I want to stop my jealous feelings, any suggestions on how to stop would be appreciated?

Question

I've noticed that lately I have been jealous of everyone, how they live, friendships, jobs etc. I know that this jealousy is directly related to me not being happy with what is going on in my life. It is hard to get up and improve my life because depression and stress has taken its toll on my energy, motivation, mind etc. Any suggestions or words of wisdom. I don't want to be jealous anymore, its pety.

Let's get this clear, I'm not jealous of materials things. I'm jealous of those who are living happy and productive lives!

Answer 1

It will help somewhat if you begin writing a list of things that you want to improve about yourself. For example, make a short term goal of what you plan to do today, for the next week, and a long term goal of the things you want to accomplish for the next month, year, 10 years...etc. Take baby steps when you make your short term plan. Concentrate on the things you CAN change about you....and don't worry about the things that you can't change. Reward yourself on a regular basis for the major accomplishments you have been successful in.

Answer 2

there is really no need to be jealous of anyone, since they will all eventually end up EXACTLY the same as you and me will some day, which is dead. see? in reality, no one is really better than anyone else, but some do like to feel that they are better. anyway, we all come into this world the same (birth) and go out of it the same (death), so no one is really better than anyone else.

if that doesn't work, just know that my significant other said he used to be extremely jealous of others, but then he grew up. he says that being jealous of material things and/or people is just silly since we will all end up the same in the end (dead and without all the material things). and just because someone may have more money, just think that they probably also may spend even more than they make and are just one catastrophe away from losing everything (just as we all are). even someone like a doctor has quite a bit to lose should things ever start to go downhill for him or her, and even doctors will have their moment with death.

oh, and if you truly are not happy with your life, just try to realize that you are likely much better off than many people in the world are. many are in wheelchairs, have lost limbs (arms and legs), have pain every single day, are starving, etc. once you see this, you will see that your life is not really all that bad after all. hope that helps, and good luck!

Answer 3

Its hard to control jealousy over others lives, I have found the best way for me to do this is to sit back and actually realize all the good things I do have in my life, my kids, my family, The ability to lead a normal life , There are a lot of people in so much worse shape then I am and I am thankful for the things alot of people take for granted, the ability to walk, talk, hear, see your life is probably so much fuller then you believe.

Answer 4

Be glad with all you have, though you may not consider it much. Always remember this "There is someone out there that has it a lot worst then you do". Good luck and always think positive.

Answer 5

STOP comparing your life to others...you are what you are try to be just that and no more..it is enough never try to be more as it will screw you up and people wont like you..be yourself its easy and you will quickly reap the benefits

Answer 6

Life is not about having what you want or being somebody famous, it's about appreciating what you have or who you are.

Answer 7

It's time to get the attitude of gratitude.
Be thankful for everything you have.