Was it wrong to give him some?

Question

Well I'm 13, i know all of you are going to say im too young for sex, but im really mature for my age. Well anyways me and my boyfriend had sex two weeks ago at his house. Then after we were done he told me that i had to get out, which made me so sad. The last time i talk to him was when i went over his house.He never calls me, im the one making all the calls. And when we talk on the phone it sounds like he never pays attention. Does he not like me anymore? should i stop giving him sex? i really love him and would want this to work out, help:(

Please dont say hes using me. I know hes not. He tells me he loves me before we have sex. I know he loves me he tells me!

hes 15 turning 16

Answer 1

It is not illegal for you to have sex, that is stupid. It is illegal for someone over 17 to have sex with you but it is NOT illegal for you.

You sound really mature and all of that for a 13 year old, it's amazing that you are but you are and that is very impressive!

You must remember that if you are going to have sex than things like this are going to happen, it is normal you probably scared the shyt out of the poor boy. It sounds like he really loves you, since he says so all the time. Right?

So then if you love him too you should give him some time and leave him alone for a while and I think he will come around and finally call you. If not then it just was not meant to be. You should not have too much trouble handling this because you are mature for 13.

If he doesn't call you then just find another guy also work on your technique you might need to do a better job than you did to hold a guys interest. Learn some oral sex techniques ask some older girls or even a guy what he likes then ask. You might also ask your mother about some techniques and stuff.

I hope that helps you.

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Answer 2

I was really mature for my age at 13 too. I'm 18 now and have a 3 year old. The guy I was with(her father) bailed as soon as he found out I was pregnant. I wish I had the wisdom now that I had then. You really should stop having sex and wait until your older. The guy is clearly just using you. Pretty soon he won't even answer your calls. Trust me I've been there and done that. Changing diapers while your friends go hang out is something that many teens aren't prepared for.

Answer 3

Oh, yes. I feel really bad for you, because you're so innocent and all. I guess you learned about things the hard way. People can lie, alright? Even if your boyfriend said "I love you", he could've just said it so you'll trust him. He probably didn't mean it if he ignores you completely now.

Those other people were right. He was using you for sex. I think you should just move on. Your "love" for him will probably pass as you get older and you find someone else that actually loves you for you, not your body.

I wish you good luck. On a different topic... did you use protection? I mean, if you didn't, then you have a whole other set of problems to worry about besides a bad boyfriend...

Answer 4

Just goes to prove what I've always told my daughter, BOYS ARE ONLY AFTER ONE THING.
Yes, by the way, you are to young for sex, after all, how can you take care of yourself and a baby, if you get pregnant, huh?
You have many choices in life, so think about it and the consequences, which is a sure sign of maturity, not being willing to go all the way,which is a sign of immaturity.
Now you have to deal with the fact that he is going to brag about it, so watch out, the hard headed freaks will be coming out after you because they will think you are easy, so do not let any others in your pants, OK.
I need to wait until you have a man in your life that not only loves you, but CARES for your well being as well.
Real men do pressure their gf's into sex, we wait until we know that both of us are truly ready.
Also, having sex has nothing to do with love, only getting lucky.
Do not yourself be used again, it can ruin your life.

Answer 5

OK, I won't mention your age at all even though I want to. Basically he got what he wanted from you and now he is done. There is a total double standard when it comes to sex. Guys don't like you to put out too fast, and when you do, they move on. Honestly they lose respect for you. I have kids older than you and I have been around a little bit. Trust me, that does not change with age. I know men that are in their 40's and if a woman puts out too fast, they want nothing to do with her. I would move on to someone else and slow down!

Answer 6

Let me tell you something right now: if a guy truly likes you, truly cares about you, truly loves you... You will KNOW it and you won't have to question it! Guys who actually care about what's best for you are not going to act like they don't care. They're not going to tell you to "get out." They're going to call you and they're going to want to talk to you. Guys are a lot simpler than lots of girls think.

I'm sorry for your situation. I know it hurts to love someone and want them to love you back, and not be sure. And just because you are young, doesn't mean your feelings are any less real.

The reason people say that you should wait to have sex until you're older doesn't just have to do with maturity - part of it is just plain, simple life experience. No matter how mature you are for your age, there are certain things that a person can only learn through time. And there's nothing wrong with that - having to learn things over time is just part of living. Now I'm not at all judging you or condemning you for what you did - but I'm telling you this because I think you would be wise to wait a little longer before you ever have sex again. You have to be really, really careful about who you give yourself to. Every girl is special and unique and has something beautiful to offer the world, and if she gives herself over to a guy who doesn't really see her and value her and love her for who she is, the deepest hurt imaginable can be the result. One of the most beautiful parts of a woman's heart is her capacity to love, her capacity to be vulnerable. You have to protect your beauty. Protecting those sacred parts of your heart is part of being a woman, and it's something you must learn how to do.

Anyway, I can imagine how hurtful this situation is for you, and I feel for you. And you know, If you want to talk about this more, feel free to email me. Sometimes it helps to have someone just listen to the details and give advice if you ask for it. As hard as it is, I think you are making the best and most mature choice if you walk away from this guy. He obviously doesn't see you for all that you are, and you deserve someone who wants you and values you enough to pursue you, and to be kind to you. You should stop sleeping with him immediately and move on to something better. He doesn't deserve a girl like you!

Answer 7

Alright listen to me the fact that u r 13 has a lot to do with the fact that u r not realizing that all he wants from u is sex and if he gets it without having to be all lovey dovey, he is got it made. I give him props for for being 13 and playin u like this and u I am ashamed of because u can't see the obvious fact that he IS using u.

Answer 8

For a mature girl you should've known the consequences after letting him sample the jello. Now your adolescent feelings are proving that you weren't as ready as you thought you were, because I can tell you right now that things will not be tha same no matter what you do from here on out. I think you should cut your loses and if he really likes you and wants to be with you then he'll come back.

Answer 9

Okay first of all dont blame it on u being mature, u obviously werent ur to young and u should of known better. Saddly the person u believe to love can be the one makin the most damage to u. If he ignores u, u should of known by now that all he wanted was ur body and not u. Leave him and exercise abstenance. I know how it feels to be in love but there is more healthier ways to love someone and in the end u are the one who ends up suffering.

Answer 10

Awh, hun. It seems like he just used you. This is why you should really wait to have sex. If you give a guy what he wants too soon in a relationship then he'll lose interest pretty soon too. Especially if he's the kind of guy that just dates a girl for sex. And totally stop having sex with him.