I live with my mom with my 3 month old son. I just went back to work a week ago, do u think I should I pay her

Question

And for how much? Or do u think as family I shouldn't bother since its her grandson?

Answer 1

I think you should at least offer. Just because the baby is her grandson and she loves him, doesn't mean it's not alot of work for her. She will probably say no, but you definitely should offer. I watch my nephew, whom I love very much, but it's so much work and I dont get done what I would if I wasn't watching him. I wish I didn't watch him so I could have my days back, but I'm doing his mom a favor.

Answer 2

my parents look after both of my children whilst I go to work - allbeit they are now both in school, so it's less time, but still something I rely on. I have never paid them as they didn't want this as I would not have been able to afford my second if this were the case. I do give money for their food whilst they are there and ample pocket money for their treats. I also book the occascional cheap break and have brought household items - such as a new toaster etc I must confess though, I have probably taken them for granted over the years and should have done more. Grandparents are simply the best at looking after our kids and will always look after them as well - if not better than us! Perhaps just give a set amount a week without being asked? I wuld feel way better right now if I had done that from the start. They are moving abroad next year so I have to find alternative care - after looking into costs it is only now i fully appreciate everything they have done over the years. My kids are also very well behaved, intelligent and sociable - and as my parents spend the most time with them- most of the credit has to go their way! Do have the chat about it now though - don't leave asking until you Mom starts being annoyed about looking after him for free - she possibly will want to do this anyway - but always best to get these things out in the open from the offset.

Good luck with work hope all goes well for you.

Answer 3

If your mom watches your baby once in a while you go to a movie with a friend or something, then no, it's considered a favor. But you should not expect her to give you free daycare. She's raised her kids, it's your job to raise yours and be responsible by paying her an adequate wage for caring for your child while you are at work. Daycare for a newborn is about $125 a week these days, maybe more depending on where you look. You and your mom should sit down and determine a fair weekly price.

Answer 4

Being the grandmother is way more fun than being the mom. Tell her I know you help me out and do you want me to pay you, or give you some money, or maybe suggest to pay a bill, like electric or cable or something. Good Luck and Congrats If you don't want to part with the money then don't ask expect her to say no, you keep it. An offer would be nice tho, it lets her know you appreciate her watching your son. Maybe take her out to dinner instead.

Answer 5

I would pay her even if she says no, it's just the principle of the matter. It is a lot of work to take care of a child all day no matter how old they are. If she definitely refuses money, I would make it a point to take over her lunch, snacks, and milk once he is eating regular food. Pay for special outtings and make sure that if you take the baby to her house that you have all the proper equipment there to make the baby and your mother very comfortable and once the baby is older toys to keep him entertained. When it comes to child care it is best to treat your mother the way you would treat someone else when it comes to respect for her time...pick the baby up when you say you will, call if you can't, and remember then the weekends are hers to relax.

Answer 6

Yes you should pay your mom something. Don't talk to her about it because you know she will say don't worry and find every excuse to aviod it. You should give her something by way of cash. If you cannot afford much then at least you get the formula and diapers in constant supply. As the baby gets older and if your mom still sits for you then you can make sure the snacks and stuff for lunch for your little one is there.

Answer 7

You definetly should bother!! After all it is her grandson, not her son. He is not her responsibility. You need to talk to her about it. Tell her you want to help out and work out a good amount. I have a feeling if you just asked her if you should pay, she will say no. You should tell her you want to help. Good luck!

Answer 8

Unless your mother is very wealthy, then you should pay her for your rent, food & help with the household bills. Or maybe just a flat out fee of about $200 to $300, depending on how much your job pays you. I know she will greatly appreciate it since now a days, everything is expensive. Please don't take advantage of her, because she, too has to think of herself also for things like retirement. You will feel better contributing to the household & it will be a better, healthier environment for you & your precious son. Good luck !!!!

Answer 9

If none of these other answers make sense to you I will help make it very simple. Everyone could use a little extra cash. Taking care of a child is a big responsibility. Do not ask her if she wants the money. That puts her on the spot. You need to tell her, "Mom I want to give you $ for taking such good care of my child. I know I don't have to worry about him when he's with you. Thanks for being there for me".
Think about the alternative. Day care is very expensive.

Answer 10

I would say yes at least offer and if she says no then ok. you can always buy food or pay a bill or two also. as for how much it depends on her income and yours. as far as "since it's her grandson " bit... hey you figured you were mature enough to have a child, be mature enough to help out with the bills.