What I was speaking about is Radical Feminism. I do know it is possible to be feminine and still believe in equal rights. I agree with that stance. I was speaking only of radical feminists. There are those who have told myself and others that we are too feminine. That we should make our careers top priority. I was not meaning to insult anyone. Only to hold a discussion. Thanks for ALL answers.
2007-05-11 12:57:30 · 13 answers · asked by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
there are those who are threatened somehow when women allow men to be the stronger gender. They do not want to rely on men nor do the men take up their place as Spiritual heads of the home, because of radical feminism.... we are called to be 'submissive' but that doesnt mean doormats to be walked all over...
being feminine is not bad nor should we feel 'inadequate' when we allow our husbands to be 'over' us in our relationships. Thankfully, I have a Christian husband who is goodwilled and not evil minded. We are a team where we are equal in value to one another.
2007-05-13 09:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by livinintheword † 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your last question was at all insulting :)
I see what you mean definitely. However there is a tendency to categorize people too easily. I think between radical feminism and old-fashioned femininity, there are many variations.
Sometimes I think the women's rights movement went a bit astray. People often put their own labels on what it *should* be, failing to recognize that it differs for each woman.
As an example, to me, it did not signify an end to "traditionalism", but I think to many it has. There can indeed be a stigma, which I have felt many times, towards stay-at-home mothers. There is also a stigma against working mothers. So it seems we women have come a long way, but still have a long way to go before we come to accept that women's rights is a variation on a theme. That working mothers, stay-at-home mothers, unmarried women, unmarried women with children, etc., are all expressions of the freedom we have and are all valid choices.
I believe whole-heartedly in the feminist movement in so far as it granted us those choices, but I do appreciate a door being held for me. And I am not ashamed to admit that I don't know the first thing about changing a tire or fixing a leaky faucet :p
There are some things that baffle me. I sometimes perceive a backlash of the feminist's movement, that our new-found freedoms gave us the ability to degrade ourselves in the name of equality (the "Girls Gone Wild" videos are an example).
Much as I don't like it, though, that too is a valid choice. Who am I to say what freedom is and isn't? :)
2007-05-11 14:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I cannot believe the hassles I went through when my children were young because I chose to be a stay-at-home Mom. I am so glad I made the choice and my kids became awesome adults. That is when the feminist thing was getting so popular. A man is made in the image and glory of God and a woman is made in the image and glory of man, so, the best thing a man can do is take good care of the gift God gave him (woman) and the best thing a woman can do is take care of the crowning act of creation...man. God made us to compliment one another but not be clones of one another. A woman longs for love while a man longs for respect...even the Bible backs that up when it tells us, "Men love your wives....women respect your husbands". It saddens me when I see the disrespect and dishonor that people show one another. A woman should not usurp the authority of the man. The thing is that emotionally people are not yet adults and yet they want to be the boss of everything. Men if you want respect then love your wives and behave in an adult manner. Women if you want the love then quit talking down and rudely to the men. It is not right. I believe that if our financial situations were different then a good percentage of women would stay home with their babies and put their time and talent on them rather than some workplace. We Grandparents could go back to being Grandparents instead of parents. All of society would benefit if girls became ladies and boys became gentlemen. Ahhh for the good ole days. The women that must work and are able to do the same work as the man physically then they should be paid the same. It is only right. If they can compete equally with a man then they should be able to have the same promotaional opportunities. That is my story and I'm sticking to it. Mmm
2007-05-13 11:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the kind of people you're talking about. I've worked in the oil industry and as a psychologist but stopped when I had children. I have had women act like I was an alien because I am a stay-at-home mom. It's annoying that they feel what I do isn't important, but I know in my heart that I have the most important job in the world. I find that overall men respect my decision more than women do. It's like they think we'll be forced to go back in time and have no choice or equality again. My family is more valuable than a career to me. I don't feel everyone has to follow me, so why should I follow them? So I feel that radical feminism hurts women since they are the ones that want to hinder our choices now.
God Bless.
2007-05-11 13:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're right... I'm a feminist too and believe that women should have the opportunity to do anything men do. But that does not mean we have to do it! If a woman is happier without a career at home that is her own choice and should be respected.
2007-05-11 13:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by E.T.01 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Feminism IS believeing in equal rights between the genders. RAdical feminists worry me because they don't really want equal rights, they want everybody to be men.
2007-05-11 13:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by Kharm 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wasn't offended, but I don't really agree with you at all on this. Why shouldn't we make our careers priority? What scares me is that some women find THAT shameful now. I don't want kids, ever, and every time I say that in front of a woman at least ten years my senior, she laughs in my face or calls me selfish. I thought equal rights meant that I didn't have to be a baby-making factory.
2007-05-12 07:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by nomadic 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think my previous arguments still apply:
Humans, regardless of gender, have an intrinsic right to pursue their dreams.
It is contrary to feminism to suggest that any woman should not be her own "boss": that she should not be entitled to make her own decisions as to how she will live her life.
Anyone, regardless of gender or "radicalism", who suggests that some roles are "good" and others are "bad", is a threat to that intrinsic right and should be treated as such.
A woman is as entitled to choose to be a prostitute as she is to be the pope
I do not, never have and never will, support the effort to claim that some roles are not for women and some roles are. Whether it be women telling women what to do with their lives, or men telling women what to do with their lives, it is all the same.
Given how Paul and several religions/denominations attempt to pigeon-hole women into "correct" roles, I think this question could have been more general and still received the same answers.
To be a member of a faith that most -certainly- stereotypes women, and point fingers at others, is edging into a form of hypocrisy I cannot support.
2007-05-11 13:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I believe God gave us equal rights in the Garden of Eden. He created us male and female. We could work together perfectly when it comes to life as God created us. The only issue with us not being equal is PRIDE n EGO. I think that deals with the matter of the heart, a spiritual problem.<><
2007-05-11 13:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I believe the first career is the family, then later work outside the home if desired.
2007-05-11 15:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by RB 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋