Ladies: Do you consider yourself feminine or a feminist?

Question

Men which do you prefer?
It seems lately in our society that feminine women are seen by other women as weak, feminists seem to want to be men. They do not like doors opened for them, do not like to be called mam, or treated in the old respectful manner. I grew up in a family where men would not curse in front of a lady. Times have changed. Your input please?

Answer 1

I would consider myself feminine... not a feminist.

Times have changed. and it is sad.

I think we are 'in the world' so much that we forget to teach manners that are 'good' or we do not set expectations high in that area. I personally, would LOVE for doors to be opened for me and to be treated like a lady...

there are those who are afraid to be feminine because they have been made to feel weak and unworthy by others.... so they put on their defense of being less than feminine.

I need to work on teaching my boys how to be chivalrous... to open doors, including car doors, for ladies.... to help women and to be respectful

Answer 2

I don't think they're mutually exclusive at all. I'm a pretty hard crusader for equality in all aspects, but I'm still feminine. I don't mind anyone opening a door for me, but if I tried to open a door for a man and he wouldn't let me, I'd be pissed. I would also be angry if someone called me "ma'am" but then again, I think that "sir" and "ma'am" are a southern thing, are they not? I've never heard that used in the northeast.

As for cursing in front of a lady - if the lady doesn't like cursing, then I think that's respectful, but I've been in situations with men where they felt that women should not be in the room if they were drinking or smoking, and I just find that to be crap. Why can't I?

Answer 3

I like to say I'm feminine with a little tomboy child inside.

Feminist sounds radical, and I stay away from anything like that, so.... definitely not a feminist.

I like for a man to be a gentleman, open doors and treat women in their presence with dignity. I think being called a lady is an honor, and there is nothing wrong with being a Mrs.

Answer 4

Feminine. I heard once that if Chivalry was dead it was because the feminists killed it.
I love having the door opened for me....I like to be treated in a respectful manner....I walked into a room the other day and a man apologized for using a curse word. I love having men around that are chivalrous. And they can only do it if we allow them.

Answer 5

I used to be a feminist, I would not consider myself one anymore. I am a born again Christian woman. I think God's order of things is perfect. Although I am not married, I see why God has marriage, a Christian marriage that is, ordered the way He does. People mistake the man being head of the household as the man bossing his wife around and the woman being a doormat. Isn't it odd how twisted God's word can get? That's not at all what God wants. He wants partnership, love and harmony.

I have nothing against women who are feminists because I understand where the need for that comes from. It comes from being talked down to and treated as less than. I look forward to the day when men and women will once again be joined in harmony, in the way we were always meant to be.

Answer 6

I am a girly girl. I don't see myself as weak by any means. I think you can be feminine and feminist. I disagree with you on this issue. Feminists are women. What they fight for is equal pay, equal rights, and freedom of choice. I am for all of those things for women.

I have no desire to be a man. I love having doors opened for me. Not exclusively because I am a woman, but because it is common courtesy. I open and hold doors all the time. Does that make me butch? NO! I use ma'am and sir all the time, it is a habit. I love that men and women are different. We are supposed to be different. An intimate physical relationship with a man is wonderful. I love letting him be masculine, I LOVE THAT. I love being feminine to his masculine, it is very sexy to me. Does he have to stand up from the table when I rise? NO! Does he have to constantly watch his language? NO! Do I love it when he holds me? YES! Let's celebrate our differences and enjoy each other.

I want equality under the law. I want equality in a loving relationship. We share and discuss. We each give 100% to the other with love and respect. That would be perfect if we could all do that.

Should we be paid the same for the same work? YES! Should we be promoted using equal criteria? YES! Do I want to play football with the Cowboys? NO! Is he my lord and master? NO!

I am rambling now. You can see that this is a subject I feel strongly about. I just want to ask you sweetie, aren't you equal in your home? To each their own but I sure hope you are.

Answer 7

I consider myself a feminine feminist. I don't want to be a man. I don't like saying or hearing profanity. I like being treated as a lady. I want equal pay for doing an equal job, but I don't want to be a football player or a soldier. I believe people should realize that we can be different, physically weaker (especially in upper body strength) and stronger in other ways (men act like little girls when sick), so it equals out. After almost 14 years of marriage, my husband still opens doors for me. I want that for my daughter too.

God Bless.

Answer 8

Well, i would say, its the need that has changed the feminine to a feminist. The thing is tradationally, a man's role was to provide and a woman's role was to support the family. In the recent decades marriges are not honered as they once used to. So the evolution in woman's role was inevitable!. I think we as a society need to re-evaluate so many deep things. It was the thinkers that brought so many positive changes to the world and it was religion that brought morality in the society. i personally think man also have to play an important role and be the provider as he once was! We have become so engrossed in our dealy lives and problems, at the same time easily susceptiable to the wrong opportunity across the corner that it has almost become acceptable. Big changes have to be made and i am glad the questions have started....:)

Answer 9

I''m feminine...naturally. I'm a woman of gentle nature who is also of inner strength and stands in my power. I embrace who I am and celebrate and care for my soul and heart.

To have doors opened for me, treated of value and respect. . . I appreciate that. I in turn value, treasure and respect men.

Times have changed...yet the natural core of the inner self has not. I live my life of the natural inner voice...not the voice of today's society that tries to project the thought that gentleness is a weakness. A gentle, caring man (a gentleman) . . . A tender, nurturing woman (a lady) . . . there is much strength in traits as those. Men have commented to me that traits of my being a lady while also of strong self value is rare to come across...yet also treasured.

I'm feminine...it's natural to me...and natural is the way to be.
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Answer 10

There is a difference between feminist and feminazis!

Feminist want women to have the choice to live however they want and make their own decisions.

Wether someone wants to be girly, tomboyish, a house wife, a lawyer, or the first female president. It's all good.

Feminazi's think that men are garbage and that a woman wanting a simple life as a housewife is wrong. Despite claiming that they want women to stand up for themselves, they sit there and still dictate how women should live.