Is this the same?

Question

When I graduated college, my father threatened not to attend because I did not want him to bring his mistress to what was supposed to be MY day. He ended up coming, sans the concubine, and everything was fine.

Tomorrow, both my best friend and my father are graduating from different colleges. It's impossible to attend both ceremonies. I was trying to decide which to attend. I asked my father if he minded if I attended my friend's graduation instead of his, largely because she doesn't have a lot of support.

For his answer, he cited my response to his suggestion to bring his girlfriend to my ceremony (which would've embarrassed me, my mother, and my maternal grandparents, also in attendance...) when I told him that I would never forgive him because in my eyes, he chose his concubine over me.

Now, all I want is some opinions on his response. I would be attending my friend's ceremony. He would've been at home, being selfish. He says it's the same thing. I disagree. Who's right?

Answer 1

i think you are absolutely right. He is just trying to make you feel guilty. Could imagine if he would've brought his mistress? You were thinking of your WHOLE family. He is just thinking about himself.

Answer 2

You should probably go to your Dad's graduation, family should, in most cases, come first. Support him.

Answer 3

I think what he is attempting (not very well) to point out was that when you asked him to put you first, he did it.

Answer 4

provided this is real, you need to be with your dad. he went to yours.