At what age should parents give children their privacy?

Question

Obviously I'm talking about the children's privacy.

Answer 1

When they are mature enough to need it. Most kids will at some point. 13 is probably the average age. But not too early becuase they might not be responsible enough yet

Answer 2

It's hard to tell exactly what form of "privacy" you are speaking of. If it is of the physical kind I would say if the child requests it (such as when he or she is on the toilet) I would honor that. Some personalities are more modest than others and as a parent that is a determination that you will have to make on your own. I think privacy is very important right before and obviously after puberty. During the pre-pubescent stage, you may need to teach your child to be modest (not ashamed) but aware of their body and that they need to respect it and part of that is demanding privacy. Your body is not for everyone to see.
As far as privacy and their personal space.... well I am from the old school and in my home privacy of this sort is a privelege. It will be granted to you so long as you give no indication that your actions and behavior need to be monitored. If they do, it is my responsibility as a parent and mother as well as legally and financially to protect my children and keep them from harm even if it means I may have to violate their personal space.

Answer 3

I think it really depends not only on the age but also what U are letting them be PRIVATE for...
I know when i was younger I feel my mother gave me too much privacy, as I did things that were not very good for me health (so to speak) where as my father didn't give me any privacy (which in the long run had me rebel to feel some sort of control)
Age appropriate privacy is understandable, but make sure there is always NONE JUDGMENTAL communication as a relationship for ur child, and GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

Complete and total privacy... when they ask for it. If they have asked you not to come in their room then don't unless you have a reason to think that there might be something going on. Now on the other hand I have a 3 year old that hates to have anyone in the bathroom with him, so he gets his privacy there. I was 15 before I got privacy because I shared a bedroom with my little sister and believe me it was rough doing so. I think 10-12 is a good time to start trusting your child enough to give him/her the privacy that is needed for a child to mature and become independent.

Answer 5

well, kids should always have a place that is "theirs" and place where they feel safe and secure, their own little kingdom, a childs bedroom does that.

no matter how old, respecting a childs privacy is important, you can do this by simply knocking on the childs door before entering, much like you would exspect the child to do for your room, and not enter the childs room all the time and not use it for your own purpose like as a big closet.


as they become teenagers you realy should respect their privacy and when there in their room, leave them, and make sure you knock before opening.


however privacy should not come at the cost of the childs saftey, for example your child as the right to a bit of privacy on the net, but if you feel their doing something dangerious then you have to step in, to protect your child

Answer 6

Certain things should be private at any age - such as a diary. Most kids use them to "talk out" things that bother them or happen to them, and it's not usually meant for others' eyes unless they choose to share it.

That said, I think a set "age" is relative. If you can trust your child not to lie to you and you have open lines of communication where your child feels they can come to you about ANYTHING, then you should grant them general privacy - with the exception of things like Internet. You should know where they're surfing and who they're in contact with there until they're 18 - there's too many weirdos out there.

Answer 7

Is this inst an exact age. It will vary from child to child , home to home.

I am a mom of a 6 yr old and a 5 yr old. They are both 100% different from each other and both are at different maturity levels. (my 5 yr is older in this aspect)

I give them privacy to a point. Such as in the bathroom. I allow my 5 yr to be in there for 5 or 10 mins at a time before I go check to see what he is up to. My 6 yr who has to touch every thing gets just enough time to do his business usually no more than 5 mins.

Also my sons are at the age where I have to tell them that if they want to touch certain things on their body's they need to go to their bedroom and not be doing it in the living room or in front of others.

So I have to allow privacy for that (grant you they are not doing what a 16 yr old boy is doing however they are at an age I have to teach them we don't grab our selves in front of others)

Answer 8

I think you should give your child privacy at the age 11 or 12 because this is when they begin junior High school (6th grade) they begin to have girlfriends and boyfriends they need a little more space at these times

Answer 9

well, we should always give them enough privacy but not hog them much otherwise we loose their trust. But when it comes to age, there isn't an exact age cause you'll always worry, cause you'll always be a parent and you love them and want the best for them.

Answer 10

When they begin going through puberty.