well cut a long story short we was together for 2 years and had done alot together we split at crimbo time shes 20 now and am 20 turning 21 in july.am starting my army training in july 23rd this year and am ganna be 200 miles away from her.ive not spoke to her since the split only her dad and mum and they still speak to me and want to know what am getting upto and so on...but in the last 2 months ive emailed her dad and not had a reply after a few emails and still no reply....but my question is shall i pay him back before or after my army training and turn up dressed in my army gear to show what ive done....as they always thought i wud never get there...i owe him £2000 for the motorbike he brought me and hes not been asking for it back he just says pay back once you can.....but i think aswell he was involved in my and my ex's split so thats why am ifin to pay him back....i know in my heart the real thing to do is pay him back
i would love some advice....plus am still in love with her
2007-05-11 11:00:08 · 20 answers · asked by killergibbo1111 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The decent thing to do would be to pay him back. Even if you cannot pay it back in fill right now, the gesture of sending him SOME of the money with a note telling him that this is the first installment would be great. It would show him that you are an upstanding young man and a true adult.
Do not tell him "i am going to pay you back" without having money in hand or in the envelope with your note telling him its the first installment. Otherwise it is an empty promise.
2007-05-11 11:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 10:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of the whole ex thing you should pay him back. even though he said when you can do it as you can. He gave the money in lump but understands you may not be able to give it in the way it was given. keep the respect alive with the parents it will help you feel better of yourself. reality check is don't think if you pay him back you will win her back. But remember when handling your life appropriately even ex's will look back and say what if?
2007-05-11 11:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by rose s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you an honorable man, with integrity, if yes, then pay him back she does not have to be in your life in order for you to do the right thing, Karma is lurking over your shoulder on this one. Do the right thing. I know its hard when you care for someone but, you really should move on and start dating again, those darn emotions are a PITA aren't they?
2007-05-11 11:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by Gwen B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shows allot of integrity to bring the subject up- many people are never comfortable collecting debts, but still stew inside about it.
Which wouldn't be good for you whether or not your love is given another chance- don't burn a bridge.
If you are short on cash and will be until a couple of paychecks-tell him- he will really appreciate your honesty and again integrity-I'm already proud of you!
2007-05-11 11:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by laurencee60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said to pay him back when you can, then pay him back when you can. He's got a ton more money than you; it's not such a big thing to him.
But, if you think you still love her, then make it "as soon as you can". Girls like honest guys who aren't tightwads.
Either way, whether sooner or later, whether he screwed with you two or not, you owe him the money.
2007-05-11 11:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by Bravo-Alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if they are still talking to you after you guys split, then i guess they really like you and trust you with their daughter.
I suggest you do the right thing and pay them back ASAP, this way it shows that you are trustworthy and honest and most important keep their promises.
2007-05-11 11:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do the right thing by her dad she will/might respect you more.
Careful though, you are still so young. You have a lot to learn about the world and boot camp will do that for you.
DEFINATELY EMAIL HIM AND TELL HIM YOUR INTENTIONS TO PAY HIM BACK.
That's what a MAN would do!
2007-05-11 11:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by sashi d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As for the girl, do what you need to do in relation to your career and see what happens from there.
As for the dad, pay him back asap, you seem to be a man of integrity, so pay the guy his money, it will make you feel good about yourself and make him feel good about you.
2007-05-11 11:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is an agreement to repay on the table, you should pay him back. Does not matter, who, what, when. The agreement was not contingent on circumstances. Your word is your bond. Step up.
2007-05-11 11:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋