pants and he was touching me and trying to get me sleep with him..
i said no but he won't stop until i pushed him off, then i went home..
should i see him anymore?
2007-05-11 10:41:44 · 53 answers · asked by kiki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him first. If he doesn't take you seriously, or refuses to comply, dump him.
2007-05-11 10:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by Avvi 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you need to talk to him about it. realize first and formost that this man has a control issue. It can be controlled, but it is difficult. depending on how long you've been seeing him and if you're ready to handle this, I would walk away. It frankly depends on how much you like him. But there will be a time in some form that he will do this again, something worse than fingers i'm afaid. sit him down and SET BOUNDRIES and consquenses. let him know ( for example) that if he touches your leg and you tell him to stop and he does not, you won't call him for a week. If he gets aggressive or violent at this idea or threatens your safety walk away. Watch for similar signs of abuse such as things like him getting jelous easily and pushing you away from your friends. He may have just been horny, but this is a control issue just the same.
2007-05-11 10:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A guy's hormones are very strong and it's hard to turn off. Let him cool off and later have a talk. Tell him your not ready for the next step. If he can't be serious about it then move on. Also don't makeout with him so hard. Making out leads to more so why get the guy all excited.
2007-05-11 10:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cat 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do the word molestation and sexual harrassment ring a bell?
If he can't take no for an answer, he just may not stop the next time around, even if you say so, then it becomes rape.
Seeing him again would be risky. Sounds like he only wants you for one thing.
2007-05-14 05:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on your relationship...if this was a first date kinda thing then yes you should keep your distance but if you have been dating awhile he might have just been a little sexually frustrated and got caught up in the moment especially if you haven't been together yet. If you more than 3 months invested in the relationship then you might consider talking with him and letting him know you care about him but aren't ready to go to that level yet.
2007-05-11 10:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by lookingwesttexas 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Definitely not!!! How old are you? No means no! Your boyfriend, or any man/boy for that matter, should respect you. If he didn't listen to you when you told him no, then what kind of boyfriend do you expect him to be? He should understand that you were not ready. He tried to take advantage of you-you were right to leave. You should've kicked him in the balls before you left, too.
2007-05-11 10:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by Misty B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No means no, and you shouldn't have had to push him off. He should have stopped when you told him to. If you still want to be with him, then talk to him and tell him that you are not ready to be that intimate with him now, and that he needs to respect your feelings and your boundaries. If he refuses to do this, then ditch him and find someone that knows how to stop when told.
2007-05-11 10:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by LibraT 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he has habitual agressive behavior maybe you should stop seeing him. But I think the best way is to talk to him and get your point across to him that you were not comfortable and he should not have done that. If he doesn't apologize or show remorse, leave him! It might happen again but ten times worse. This is sexual harrassment and sexual molestation. Don't take it lightly!
2007-05-11 10:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by Dace 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, because he did not respect you. Respect plays in a important role of a committed relationship.
2007-05-11 10:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by jolin10 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give him a break! He's just immature...
I'm not making excuses for him... I'm only saying that he doesn't know how to act around grrls. If you really like him... speak with him about how you feel when he doesn't respect you..
2007-05-11 10:47:07 · answer #10 · answered by Kia A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this boy wont take no for answer i would kick this guy to the kerb, hes only after one thing, when a girl says no it means no, dont let this guy think he can take advantage of you, you did the right thing.
2007-05-11 10:46:27 · answer #11 · answered by TRIKER CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋