I love a friend of mine. Over the past few months we've spent a ton of time together, and also have a physical side to our friendship. I will never tell him that because I coudn't bare to not have him in my life, and I'm afraid that's a possibility if I admit that. But he keeps telling me. "I love you" (not "love ya" or something else closely related). I respond "I love you" laughing inside, because I mean it. I asked him if he tells all his friends that and he said "I love you as a friend" It's weirding me out, because I'm positive he doesn't love me like I love him. Hearing him say that feels like being stabbed with a thousand knives. Should I confront him further on it? Should I let it be? What should I do?
2007-05-11 10:38:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since you know how he means it, then take it as it's meant...as a FRIEND.
If you want to discuss this further with him, then do so...but you may not get the results you desire.
2007-05-11 10:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is already hooked on you as very good friend. You seem a little young, but here is what you should do...forget about him for the moment, I mean it. You need to do something that will involve YOU time. By this I am suggesting that you get involved in something that will make you more appealing to him. He knows you inside and out from what it seems, and you must be together very often, so you are going to need to separate for a while and train, yes, train.
Find something that you really want to do, something you wanted to learn, but never got the chance to...Work on it as if it were the only thing you had to do. Make yourself awesome and if you really love hime, you will make it so that you become soo ridiculously cool that he will be In LOVE with you as opposed to just saying "I love you" anyone can say that, and he probably says it to family members all of the time. You are like his family right now, but you can become his girlfriend if you make him see how awesome you are. And, the only way to do that is to learn something new, since he already knows what you can do.
Good luck, I hope you become awesome.
2007-05-11 10:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Heero Yui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
distinctive translations of the bible might propose love and charity are synonmus. Examples present in.1st Corrinthians ch. 13 vs. a million-17 illustrate this many cases. i might get excitement from listening to from a pupil of the languages utilized in those previous cases to make sparkling my expertise. the story of the "international's Poorest Philanthropist", Gilbert "Harold" Ewing II (myself) is the reason of this querry. The " act of grace", or charity, reffered to interior the information interview, has posited this question and that i lack the form of training to grant any insights of authentic cost.
2016-12-17 10:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should move on... sure it will hurt, but I promise you are
saving yourself more heartache later on in life.
You have a "physical side" to your relationship and he is using word to play you......he says "I love you" knowing how you feel about him......knowing that is what you want to hear, but really he is just into the physical and if it weren't you.........it would be someone else.
Wake up, smell the coffee, realize that you deserve REAL LOVE!!
To answer your question...his "I love you" means......"oh you feel so good, I love that you are letting me do this especially knowing that I dont really love you......I just say it cuz its what you want to hear". Thats what it saying.
Try not being "physical" and see what happens.
2007-05-11 10:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath. I think that it would be a good idea to ask him how much he loves you. If it isn't what you want to hear, no big. There are others guys out there in the world. Trust me. Good luck!
2007-05-11 10:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really nothing to confront him about. It seems he's made himself perfectly clear saying that he loves you as a friend.
2007-05-11 11:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kandie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know how you feel, he might just say he loves you as a friend because he is afraid of rejection.
2007-05-11 10:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by marisanj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak to him how u feel...ask him whether u r going out officially or not...u hav physical side to ur frndship..means u do kissing hugging cuddling n all sorts....so simply clear it..wht u r..friends or couple?
2007-05-11 10:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by answer it! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to find out turn it into a joke like "do you love me or just want sex". after he laughs its a lead in
2007-05-11 10:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by victorhopson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. You can't keep on hurting. Perhaps he does love you.
2007-05-11 10:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋