Should I leave her? I really love her.. Please HELP!?

Question

I met this girl 5 months ago. It was a very crazy relationship how it started but Im not gonna go trought this. She is 11 months older then me, and its crazy, how she acts. She tells me I love you, and she doesnt hide it. But now she is in onother state for a vacation, and when we talk most of the times she says I dont have time, Ill call you back, and she calls me back in 3-4-5 hrs, actually I call her. She makes me feel like its my fault. I changed my number, I try not to call her and I told her many times its over because of her mistakes with guys, but she always try to come back. I really love her, but I dont know what to do.. Please help

Will I EVER GET OVER HER? SHE IS THE FIRST GIRL I FALL IN LOVE WITH, WILL I LOVE ONOTHER GIRL LIKE HER? AND HOW COME IF I WAS SOOOO GOOD TO HER, AND I NEVER GAVE HER A CHANCE TO THINK ABOUT ME CHEATING ON HER, OR LYING TO HER, SHE STILLS ACTS LIKE THAT? I DONT UNDERSTAND, HOW CAN SHE DO THIS TO ME, WHEN SHE KNOWS HOW I FEEL!?!?!?

HOW WOULD SHE FEEL WHEN SHE KNOWS IM GONE FOREVER ? AND I DONT WANT HER BACK? IS IT GONNA HURT HER? OR ? I DONT WANT TO HURT HER

Answer 1

She sounds a little cunty to me, not sure how old you are but go to college, you will find someone new.

Answer 2

Dude, seriously! That's not love! Have you noticed how head-over-heels, out of control your emotions feel? You're on a chemical high known as infatuation. It's a combination of ferimones and hormones and it's seriously messing with your head!

Love is more of a mutual attitude and pattern of behavior which puts the needs of the other person first at all times. The emphasis here is mutual, which is not what you described.

Right now, you're going through something like withdrawal. In time, the chemicals will wear off and you'll get over her. And yes, you'll experience it again. Probably many times before you find the girl for you and marry her.

Oh, and that whole sex-before-marriage thing that the church and your grandparents always talk about? Well, there's method to their madness! Having sex while infatuated (as opposed to being in love) will solidify your chemical haze in a way that will keep your brain out of reality and for a longer period of time with more severe withdrawal effects when it's over.

Every relationship includes an infatuation stage. For a relationship to be successful, it must outlast the infatuation stage before the couple engages in intercourse. Otherwise, one or both persons will mischarachtarise the nature of the relationship and think its more serious than it is. Chemicals do that to you. That's why people say you should take it slow in relationships.

Good luck!

Answer 3

CALM DOWN. She's on vacation, probably with her family. She's busy right now, probably on the go all day. It's understandable that she's busy, and may only have time to talk once a day, if that. Don't take it personally. Call her once every couple days to say hi, and tell her to call you whenever she's free or wants to chat.

As for your rant about her mistakes with other guys, that's a whole other issue, and you haven't explained enough for us to understand what's going on.
Basically, just let her know, explicitly, what your needs and expectations are in a relationship. If she can't fulfill those, then break off the relationship once and for all, and move on. Be honest and be reasonable.

Answer 4

Well one, you have to take into consideration that when pple go on vacation, SOMETIMES it's actually a vacation from everything/everyone. You seem like you're whipped and in some cases, seemingly yours, it's a bad thing. Some pple like the idea of being missed and/or missing without actually having contact with that person. But maybe you should give it another go, if she doesnt act like that otherwise, then you went too far by calling it quits.

Answer 5

You sound very desperate. That is a real turn off for anyone. Aside from that, it's simple, She's a little flaky. You're probably not exactly what she wants, but she doesn't want to let go until she finds something better.

My advice: Turn the tables and play hard to get. Don't be so available. Make her work for it. She'll appreciate it more.

Answer 6

Sounds like it's done. Yes you will love someone just as much if not more than your first love. You're first love is your first experience of it and you have no idea about the down sides that you are facing right now. Move on with your life and find someone with-in state.

Answer 7

Mistakes with guys?
Warning bells right there. You have only been together for 5 months, which, in the swing of things is merely a fleeting romance. She shouldn't be making "mistakes" with other men. Kick her to the curb.

Answer 8

how old is she? I''m probably not one to answer your question but i will. Its not your fault first of all. Your not the one who hangs up and doesn't call back. your not the one going out to cheat on the one you love. You need to fly out and surprise her. don't tell her and see what shes doing and tell her you love her. see what happens. and go from there. just remember that ur first instinct is all ways the best one to go with.

Good Luck, I hope everything works out for you and your girlfriend. - Alaina

Answer 9

Sounds like a very unhealthy relationship, do yourself a favor and move on, sounds like your in the process of that already. tell her how you feel and that its not working. better to do it now then wait any longer. when she comes back from vacation let her know.
good luck!

Answer 10

If you truly love her then stay with her. If you wan't a differint girl then don't just break up with her. Just be her friend. Not her boyfriend. After all fighting is a part of being friends and a part of having relationships.

Answer 11

She's not in love with you and she doesn't deserve you.

YES you will fall in love again. YES it is painful and YES you will have a hard time. But you are already taking positive steps (changing your number) and you will get through this.