My boyfriend thinks it's their job, so they don't need to be thanked but I think he's just rude. Is this how he'll treat me in 30 years?
2007-05-11 09:59:40 · 19 answers · asked by Snugs 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes, it's important to say please and thank you to service workers or anyone for that matter. It's a matter of politeness and social graces.
Yes, it's the job of service workers to wait on others, but they deserve to be treated with kindness and respect.
There's an old saying "You catch more flies with honey, than you do with vinegar." The nicer you are, the better service you get.
2007-05-11 10:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the majority here that it definitely is nice, and respectful and good manners to say "thank you", even though it may be their job, they are doing something for YOU. I always make sure I thank someone whenever I can for things like that.
How he feels will definitely play some part in your relationship and already seems to have created some sort of disagreement, and this is just a small thing.
But just know those people you are saying thank you to, really do appreciate it. Most people are rude and rushed and probably say "What took you so long!" But your kind thank you and a smile may be enough to make their bad day good.
Keep it up, we all should say Thanks whenever possible.
2007-05-11 11:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by Ginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's important. Their job is infinitely hard and completely thankless, considering that they make very little money and have to deal with rude people all the time.
I don't know that it's necessarily a reflection of how he'll treat you, though. Looking at how he treats his mother is supposed to be the best way to determine how he'll treat you.
Maybe you should just tell him that you feel a little embarrassed when he's not polite to these people. Ask him how he'd like being treated that way?
2007-05-11 10:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Trisha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the overall sentiment.
It won't take 30 years before you are just another "service provider".
Consideration and kindness are critical in a relationship. Some people treat their partners are not needing courtesy, because you're "in love". Nonesense. Treating people well is always appropriate.
I wouldn't stay around to finish the argument.
2007-05-11 10:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by Carl M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is rude. Sure its their job to bring you stuff, but they still deserve to be thanked.
I work in a retail store and have people thank me all day just for the little things, which is really nice. What erks me is when you go out of your way to help someone and then they don't say thanks, they just leave the store.
Personally, I also always thank my customers for shopping in our store.
I think you need to watch out, because this does seem like a sign of how he will treat you in the future.
2007-05-11 10:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's probably how he'll treat you in the future - probably much sooner than 30 years. As soon as he sees it as your "job" to do something for him, all niceties will fly out the window. If it's important to you, find someone more polite.
2007-05-11 10:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by JenV 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa! That is a very good observation...I do believe that how people treat service workers(or any employee of any business) is very indicative of how they will treat those near & dear. It seems to show a fundamental lack of respect for others...NOT a good thing, in my opinon!
2007-05-11 10:11:36 · answer #7 · answered by photogal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is important to say please and thank you to anyone that does something for me, no matter who they are. Whether it is my husband, son, employee, friend, co worker, boss, waiter, etc. I always thank them and ask for something with a please.
Your boyfriend probably has never been taught any better and yes, if he treats others that way he will treat you that way as well eventually. Best to let him know that even if it isn't important to him, it is important to you that he treat others well.
2007-05-11 10:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think its important i do it all the time coz if i don't i end up feeling guilty and i think its rude that when someone gives u something or whatever u dont say thank u. everytime u ask u shud always say please just makes the person feel better.
Lol....he'll probably learn and treat u much better in 3 decades.
2007-05-11 10:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's been said that how a person treats service workers and/or small animals is a good way to judge their true nature.
If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, there's a good chance it's a duck :o)
2007-05-11 10:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by CanuckleHead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋