Okay i don't know where to start this all off at! Im 18 years old and I'm 7 months pregnant.( Don't Judge me because Im young) I have been going to college since i was 17 and now i have a daughter on the way! I have been with my baby's father for a little over a year when i got pregnant with our daughter. At first he was okay with it, than he told his mother who i believe convinced him that we shouldn't keep the baby. After that he kept telling me to get an abortion. I didn't because i was pregnant with his first child months before and i was devastated after getting that first abortion! So i said no to the abortion! He didn't change after that he was still the same person. I didn't notice that he changed until 5 months into my pregnancy! That's when he started disappearing and not coming around that much anymore, but he would call everyday and whatever i needed he would help with. But it was like he didn't care about me anymore! Than he called and told me he thinks we should take a
2007-05-11 09:19:52 · 10 answers · asked by HopelessRomantic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
break. i told him no that i didnt want to because we were about tobe parents and needed to learn how to work things out! He than called me back a week later telling me its over because he doesnt feel the same way! He told me he was going to be moving out. I didnt believe him until his mother called and told me he left and moved out with his new girlfriend! She 22 and has her own place. I was mad! i called him one day and they girl picked up and said that he was not the father and i cheated on him. which is all a lie! After that i told him he wont see his daughter but only out of anger! I love him and i want to be with this man! He keeps telling his mom that i need to change for me to be with him because he has changed so much for m(which is true) but i dont know what to do i love him so much helpp!!!!! He calls everyday and still wants to stop by but i dont pick up the calls or let him come over! Help!
2007-05-11 09:30:46 · update #1
Have the baby
go to the local child support and petition him to have a dna test.
They will take care if it from there
He should have worn a condom!
2007-05-12 08:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by Rhiannon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great that he still wants to be in his daughter's life. His rebound wont last. Most men get freaky when the baby is about to be born, a sad fact that most mommies do not want others to know. My husband went to the movies and a bar with a buddy of his when I was being induced. (the induction didn't work so he was there for the birth) With my second child he poured himself into work. My friend's husband bought a motorcycle (that the could not afford) during her first pregnancy and spent a lot of time away and during the second pregnancy he bought a engine to fix up and spent all his time and $ in the garage. For the first six months or so they are still a little loopy but after that they start getting their brain back. I would have left my husband several times during the first six months after the birth of my first son if I thought that divorce was an option. I am thankful now that I stuck it out. I am not saying 'get over him' just take a step back, occupy yourself with getting ready for baby (the baby will be fine even if he isn't there to begin with) and taking care of yourself. Surround yourself with friends and dont talk about it. When he sees the baby his hear will melt. It is very important that he does not feel attacked (even if he is being the jerk and his g/f is rude and wrong) He will still want to see his baby. You will get more flys with honey than vinegar.
2007-05-11 09:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by PEPPER_ON_A_STICK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the fact that you got pregnant twice in a year tells me that you are not using adequate protection. Is it possible that you're using pregnancy to keep this man with you?
Regardless of what is going on, you are pregnant now. That means that you a RESPONSIBLE FOR A LIFE. You are 18, still in college, and unmarried. PLEASE, for the sake of that child, see an adoption agency and arrange for your sweet baby to have a Mom and Dad who are ready to care for him or her. As painful as it will be, it is the most loving thing you can do.
2007-05-11 09:40:59 · answer #3 · answered by Terri J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Another reason why I'd tell my daughters to never have a child with a man you're not in a committed relationship and who agrees to it.
This isn't against you or anyone else, but it's a proven fact that men tend to change once they find out a baby is coming along.
2007-05-11 09:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, after the first abortion it was stupid to get pregnant by a man who is not ready to be a father.if you did this to trap him it did not work.you sound too immature to have a baby yourself.if this baby is just for you to use to try and trap a man that doesnt want you ,you need to give it up for adoption and grow up! forget this guy he does not want you and it doesnt matter why! its over he is with someone else.if you are in college you should be smarter than this! i feel sorry for this baby!you are the only one who knows if you cheated but if you did its a crappy thing to do and try to get him to play daddy to a kid he obviously doesnt want that may not even be his! that is evil! grow up and do the right thing good luck.
2007-05-11 10:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have the baby and get a dna test and when it comes out that its his take his sorry butt to court and make him pay the child support and as far as his mom is concerned maybe she needs to tell her son to keep it in his pants because this makes you two pregnacy and if she thinks you two are to young she needs to tell her son to stop having sex. Now the new gf she needs to back down because she doesnt have all the facts and she doesnt need to be causing you any hell she needs to make him be a man. DONT TAKE HIS CALLS AND DONT LET HIM COME OVER
2007-05-11 09:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by weeping_spirit 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is your question?
Is it whether you should get another abortion or not?
Basically, only you can answer whatever question you're seeking an answer to.
But one thing is for sure: stop having unprotected sex with someone who doesn't want to deal with the consequences.
You should also consider how giving birth will complicate your ability to attend college.
2007-05-11 09:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jordan Mardan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's not worth chasing after. Concentrate on what's important in life and realize he ain't it.
2007-05-11 10:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
blood test. if you know it is his child then do it. because a mother knows what is best for their children
2007-05-11 09:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he said to have another abortion. you are against that. welcome to the world of single parenting! it'll get better.
2007-05-11 09:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by wickedladyredd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋