White Men Only!! Alot of you say you would like to date black women but...?

Question

Why is it that you guys never approach us and when you do, she's extremely skinny and dark skinned...I'm not mad, just curious?

I'm speaking from personal observation

Thanks for everyone that answered my question maturely...

I would like to go on record by saying, I'm a beautfil black woman with a handsome black man by my side.

I have no problem with interracial dating and neither do my family or friends, this just happened to be something I've noticed.

I have honestly never seen a white man dating a light skinned, curvier woman and I was just curious...Again thanks for the feedback

Answer 1

I would have dated a black woman back when I was dating, in fact I asked one out once. I was rejected, supposedly because she was already involved. Anyway, I think many times it might be that we would avoid approaching a black woman because we would be afraid that she might not be interested in dating a white guy. Guys are usually afraid of rejection, and that's just another thing that we think we might get rejected for if we were to ask her out.

Answer 2

1. There is a cultural barrier between blacks and whites. When I was in school, there were about 5 blacks in a school of 2000 students. I only dated white women. That is what I;m use to. Also the way I was raised my family would not like it if I dated outside my race.
2. Psychology. Men are subconciously attracted to women that are simliar to their mothers (assuming they like their mothers). So white guys will be more likely to approach white women.
3. Friends approval or disapproval.
Most guys like skinny women or women with nice curves. Part of this is an insecurity thing. Guys want their friends to approve of their GF. The problem with this is these guys are placing what makes them happy behind what their friends approve of. When I was in school, I dumped a girl I really liked because I found a girl that was prettier. I was VERY happy with the other girl. I don't know why I was so dumb. Also if a guy has a friends that talks about blacks in a bad way then they will feel self concious about approaching black women.
4. As for dark skinned girls, I don't think this is a factor. The main factor is that they are skinny or have strong lean bodies. A woman with a rock hard body or great curves hypnotises me. :)

I have an Italian friend that ONLY dates black women. He tells me that black girls are often pleasantly surprise when a white guy hits on them... Venus Williams is his dream woman. :)

Answer 3

Stereotype alert! Stereotype alert!

Oh well. I see so many stereotypes of black people on here, it is almost refreshing to see it the other way. :-)

I can't speak for others, but I personally would be more likely to be attracted to a lighter colored black woman. I love black people, but I don't tend to be attracted to them. Most of the exceptions are lighter more "white" looking women. It is just how my personal attraction is wired, whether I like it or not. That said, give me a great personality and some character, and color doesn't mean a thing! In any case, I think I am an exception to the "dark skin" attraction you mention here.

As far as skinny and unskinny is concerned, I think it is beaten into our heads by the media and accepted norms that "skinny" is sexy. It is, perhaps, a mild form of brainwashing, but unfortunately we are weight obsessed in our society. So most of us have it in our head that skinny people are more attractive, and it is hard to override psychology. I sadly admit that I am not an exception in this arena.

That's my point-of-view. I think this is a fair question to ask.

Answer 4

I respect your personal observation, but I think that if it is correct, then it is surprising. I think that the whole culture makes men chase skinny girls. This is odd, because voluptuous girls like Marilyn Monroe were always thought to be really hot. Men used to like large breasts and a round bottom. But there is not much that can be said about this, because the media glorify skinny girls. About the darker skin, I am surprised. Beyonce, Mariah Carey and others like them are of mixed race and generally have lighter skins. There are no Nigerian beauties at the top of the charts. My guess is that the men want something completely different - but that points to some sort of fantasy situation, and not a real relationship. From my friends, the biggest objection they have to African-American girls - many of whom are very beautiful - is fear of what the brothers may do to them, if they "trespass".

Answer 5

Perhaps white dudes are attracted to a different type of black chick than black dudes? Sounds right to me. I have never dated a black girl but have seen a lot that I ound attractive. Usually not real dark skinned more like Halle Berry.

I have though dated a lot of asians (I am white) and married a Filipina - perhaps even darker than Ms. Berry.

Answer 6

Speaking as a white man happily married to a fine beautiful dark-skinned plus-size Jamaican lady, I am confident in my assertion that a minority of Black women are so against the possibility of going with a white guy and have no hesitation about making their feelings clear, that some white men are scared off Black women forever. You may be a charming friendly approachable lady but some Black ladies are not - in a situation of a white guy trying to make polite conversation. Contact me if you want to chat more

Answer 7

I dated a Laker cheerleader (black) when I was in my early 20's. The hard thing was how much crap we got from black men...it really soured me on the whole experience. She was a great girl and incidentally would only date white guys. But we could not go out places without hearing some A hole dude saying crap like "what, black man ain't good enough" or something to that effect.

Answer 8

I'm not white nor a man but your statement is not true. I have seen white guys with black women that are not skinny. While I have seen them with with thin s. White men don't only go out with dark skinned women they go out with light skinned women as well.

Answer 9

Race really doesn't matter. If I was still single I would love to date a black girl. I have met so many girls that I would just die to date. I almost was going to fly out to ghana to meet a black girl from Africa I was talking to online, but I really didn't have the funds to do that.

Answer 10

Girl, like my man says, "They wouldnt even know how to approach us girl."

Don't limit yourself to 1 race. Get a full scoop of the different flavors available out there! You might surprise yourself, but there are those white men out there that have the balls to approach the sisters like us. Unfortunately I dont have to worry. I have my half black, puerto rican, dominican man and I am loving it. LMAO!