My daughter who is turning 3 on the 27th of this month has no interest in potty training?

Question

My 4 year old is potty trained so my soon to be 3 year sees her doing all day and a babysit another 3 year old that is potty trained. My oldest, we put panties on her and she only wet them once, she didn't like the feeling, but for the youngest, she don't care she will wet her panties and keep wearing them. I have to brib her with candy to put panties on, then when she has to go potty she screams for a diaper. I make her go to the bathroom but still wants to wear a diaper.

Please help me, what am I doing wrong.

Answer 1

Do no stress. My first was potty trained by the time she was 3. My second wanted NOTHING to do with it for a long time. At about 3.5 she decided she was ready and we never put on another diaper (night time pull ups, but that is all).

I made a sticker board for her. We progressivly made it more difficult to get a sticker: Every 10 stickers and she got a prize. We bought a bunch of little things from the dollar store and let her pick from the bunch of them. (We also let our 6 year old pick once and a while and she would encourage her sister to go so she would get a prize as well).
First, every time she went on the potty, she got a sticker.
Then when she stayed dry all morning, she got a sticker.
Next, when she pooped on the potty she got two stickers.
Then, one sticker.
Pretty soon, she was going all the time and forgot about asking for stickers.

We still have to remind her to go before we go someplace, but that is pretty typical until they are 8 or 10 (at least with my nieces and nephews it was).

In the end, you can't make a child use the toilet, they have to want to and will make the decision to at some point. Screaming and yelling doesn't work (trust me, went there).
If the stickers and prizes don't work, think of something else.
New books, Barbie clothes, toy cars, whatever.

Good Luck! (and try not to loose your mind in the process).

Answer 2

I know you have been through this before, but here is what I think is potty training in a nutshell:
Potty training readiness starts with your daughter telling you she has to go pee before she actually does. There is no rule on when to start but it is important not to rush them.

To start potty training, the first step is to pick out cotton underwear with your daughter in the store and find something she likes.

Then in the morning, you give your daughter a choice: do you want to wear your new panties today or do you want to wear diapers? When she is ready, she will choose panties. Then you frequently ask if she has to go potty. When she says yes, you immediately take her to the toilet so she can go. When she has an accident, say "that's OK, we will try harder next time. We want to put pee pee in the toilet, not in your nice panties." It is very important to not express disappointment because they are disappointed enough as it is.

In the beginning, diapers at night are fine, until she masters daytime in underwear. Limiting fluids 2 hours before bedtime at night and making sure they go before they get into bed helps stop bedwetting.

I used The Potty Stool for my daughter and I really cannot imagine trying to potty train without it. The Potty Stool lets my kids get right to the toilet without lifting. I never even considered that I would clean out those potties. My kids were excited that by using the stool they were just like big kids and they were using what mommy and daddy use.

A great thing about The Potty Stool is that you don't have to retrain your kids to go on the toilet after they are trained on the potty. When they are potty trained, they can keep using the stool for years. The best thing is that my kids thrived on the independence and were very excited about going in the bathroom just like adults. You can see the stool at www.ThePottyStool.com

I know you feel like you have a long road ahead of you, but you will do just fine.
Hang in there and remember that your daughter will get the hang of it.

Answer 3

Make it an all day process. Show her how the sink spits out water, so thats where she washes her hands. Show her the toilet, and how to flush it, and let her watch it. Take her into the bathroom, and take off her diaper, and sit her on the toilet. Get a cup, and put M&M's in it. If she tries to eat them, tell her she can't eat them until she uses the potty. Try different types of candy or gum - some kind of fun snack. It will probably take about a week to get her potty trained, but that's how I potty trained my brother and sister, both at 2 and a half. Good luck =]

Answer 4

You are not doing anything wrong, she is just a bit stubborn. :) Are you spending as much time with her as you are with the other children? Could she just be vying for attention? (I am not calling you a bad parent, this happens sometimes). Try this, it worked for my cousin. Keep her in diapers, but don't let her do things that the other kids do. She's still a "baby". If you treat her like a baby (don't BABY her, but restrict her from some things) she should try to not potty unless she's on the toilet. I know it will be hard, but she may just be testing you! Try that for a few days, see what happens. If that doesn't work, you may want to talk to your pediatrician. They would know of good ways to do it.

You could always make a game of it as well. That's easier with boys though, my brother (he'll hate me saying this) was doing the same thing, we got him potty trained by throwing Cheerios in the toilet and having him aim for them! :)

Good luck! I hope things work out!

Answer 5

You can not force it.....That is the key....I am a preschool teacher of 2 1/2 - 4 year olds......I have some kids as old as 4 1/2 still not pooping in the toilet......It is very common for them not to have an interest till 3 1/2 ....My advice to you....is not to stress.....If she goes GREAT!!! big smile lots of clapping....if not....oh well we'll try next time....When you go potty have her go in the bath room with you have her naked and just have her sit on her own potty chair...dont expect her to sit for long or even go...try to do this like every hour or two....Get some potty books for the two of you to read....But DO NOT CALL HER A BABY!!! or PUNISH her for not going it will only make your job harder...There are three things parents can not make their child do...1 cant make them talk...2 cant make them eat and 3 cant make them go potty.... those are the 3 things children alone have control over and if you try to force it you are just going to create a power struggle..... so just relax...it will happen.....I promise...just maybe not on your terms

Answer 6

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Answer 7

You're bribing her is what you're doing wrong. you force her to sit on the toilet is what you're going wrong. You have failed to recognize that SHE isn't ready to be potty trained. SHE isn't a clone of her sister, SHE isn't the same child as the one you babysit. SHE is an individual. SHE is not part of a "collective" that says and does and acts the same as the rest of them. Stop comparing her to other children. She doesn't happen to be ready to be potty trained...it will take a little longer for her to be ready. So put the damned diapers back on her and stop with the CANDY...geeze rot the kids teeth because you want her to be potty trained...

Answer 8

My neighbour's daughter wasn't potty trained until she was three and a half, but this wasn't for lack of trying- some children just don't 'get it' until they are older, and it's nothing to do with teaching techniques or seeing other people being successful at it..it's just the way they are. Give it a rest for a couple of weeks, and try again.
Do a fun sticker chart and get her using it. But until you are ready to try again, keep praising your other daughter every time she goes to the toilet properly, but say nothing to your nearly three year old when changing nappies.

Answer 9

My daughter will be 4 on may 27th. Those little gemini girls sure are stuborn and strong willed when they want their way. It took a little bit of time but outher than an occasional accedent at night shes doing fine now. last year about this timeshe went through stages. one week she wanted a pull up and the next week she wanted her underware. Praise worked pretty good for her. we made a big deal when she wore her underware and then she just started going potty one day.

Answer 10

Some kids learn this at 2, some at 4. Don't judge this kid by what other ones do. Just be patient, and try once a month or so to see if she's ready.