date rape Does the feeling of guilt ever go away?

Question

Ever since this happened to me I feel like I should have shouted louder or done something to stop it but I did not.

Answer 1

What you need to realize is that you are alive, and that is what is important.

As per feelings of Guilt... Guilt is an affective state in which one experiences conflict at having done something one believes one should not have done (or, conversely, not having done something one believes one should have done). It gives rise to a feeling that does not go away easily, driven by conscience. Sigmund Freud described this as the result of a struggle between the ego and the superego parental imprinting.

You need to realize you did nothing wrong, you are a victim, and this really bad and terrible thing happened to you. You didn't cause it, you didn't invite it, you didn't deserve it...

But you have to move forward from it... Do not let feelings of, "If I only did this...", "What if I would have done that...", "If only I said this...", "If only I said that..."

It doesn't matter, it is done, and you have to move forward from it as well...

Best wishes to you... Be Safe!
 
 

Answer 2

At least it wasn't your best friend's ex-b/f that did it to you like what happened to me! If you told the guy "no" then he, by law, has to obey your request. If he continues to proceed w/ you sexually against your will, then it's considered rape. If you're having feelings of guilt, then you need to see a therapist that's trained in this area. Tori Amos (the singer) started a group called RAINN (I think that's the abbreviation.) that handles rape cases and they can point you in the direction you need to go to move past this. Check your phone book for local date rape hotlines and they can also give you some advice on what your next steps should be.

Don't feel guilty about something that YOU didn't do! The guy that did this to you is the true culprit and HE should be the guilty-feeling one! You did nothing wrong and didn't deserve to be violated in such a personal way! It'll be hard to think of sex in the same light as being fun and wonderful, but in time you'll get there again! Don't let this creep get the better of you in your feelings and you should press charges against him so he can't do this to another person! Good luck!

Answer 3

Guilty feeling are, however irrational, unfortunately normal. It's normal to mull over the "what ifs" and "only if I." Just the same, the guilt is not rightfully yours. HE was out of line.
I haven't been through date rape myself, but marital rape from my first husband. He even took me three days after I gave birth, and I still mulled over the "what ifs" and kicked myself for letting it happen. Irrational, yes.
Over time, and with a lot of encouragement from my second husband, I have learned to let go of the guilt and give it all to my attacker.
Seek therapy. Talk to others who have dealt with this. People who understand can give you learning tools on how to let go of the self-kicking and stand strong and proud knowing that you have done nothing wrong.
Good luck!

Answer 4

No, the sensation will on no account bypass away completely. even though it quite is going to vanish out to the place you do no longer experience like that popular. it gets to the place you keep in mind the whole concern very hardly.......comparable ingredient handed off to me 14 years in the past.....I nevertheless get the "what if's" each and every now and then, yet they're a ways and few in between. I often happens whilst i stumble on myself in a concern the place a guy strikes in a sprint to close to to me and makes me experience uncomfortable. I certainly have additionally come to verify that it does no longer have mattered if I screamed louder or kicked tougher it grow to be going to take place to count what and that i had to regulate over the region..... there grow to be no longer something you ought to do approximately it the two.. the only ingredient you're able to do now could be pass on, it quite is going to take time even though it quite is going to take place....

Answer 5

it takes a lot of time and therapy but the feelings of guilt eventually do go away, try not to think of what you could have done becuase it wasnt your fauly you were completley violated by someone who will rot in hell, so just try to focus on the future and what you can do make yourself feel better and safe now rather than what you think you could done to prevent it when it wasnt in your locus of control, get therapy it will take time but it will help you sort out all you emotions at this hard ttime in your life, but remeber even if now things seem bad it will get better

Answer 6

I have reported adam g - and if you do the same , hopefully we will have him off yahoo this time tomorrow. As for your problem - look you did nothing wrong. Some men are just animals and nothing we can do about it - good example with this silly little ponce here - adam g - he`s probably about 12 - but he will grown up to be a rapist - or he probably is a child molester or something right now.

Don`t worry - hold your head up high. x

Answer 7

It's not your fault. You can't change the past, so there is no sense dwelling on it. You can beat yourself up over and over again, but that will never change what happened. Keep your chin up, you'll be fine. You're doing great so far.

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Answer 8

You have NOTHING to feel guilty about -- Some ****** jacked you -- did you cut his nuts off ? Why should you feel guilty ? Should I feel guilty if someone steals from me ? Careful who you hang with -- the world is getting worse.
Don't worry - he'll get his.

Answer 9

don't listen to adam.he being stuipd.yes it will go away eventrly.but you need to talk to someone about this you would fill much better. also you need to call the rape crisis hot line.and talk to some one they will help you.

Answer 10

you didn't do anything wrong, just remember that.