Why do children run away from a non-abusive, no drugs, no arguments and supportive parents.?

Question

when i was growing up i never once though about going out on the streets i always stayed in my comfort zone. thsts my problem now, i will not wonder outside my comfort zone now. why are children attractive to the negative surroundings?

my 14 year old did not come home because i found out he missed 3 straight days out of school and i have put myself in debt so he can attend a private school. but his action are not showing that he wants his mouth says onething but action does another. ( i know he is worth it)

i told the police to take him to juvenile because i can't be worrying about his safety when he runs off and does not come home for 24 hours or more. and i will not give into that radical behavior.

I will not give up not yet because GOD did not give up on me.

Answer 1

It's like when you tell a child no to touch the fire but yet they do anyways. Maybe your son wants to feel the burn. Maybe to a certain extent it maybe be your fault if you never disciplined him and know you want to start. But hey you can only do so much and that was good that you sent him to juvenile, so he can see that as long as he lives in your house, under your roof he must respect and obey your rules. He may be upset with you know but later in life he will come to realize that you did what was best for him. Believe me.......... cause I did it to my mom and now that I have a children I would have done the same with too.

Answer 2

Typical teenagers that live with substantial, God fearing parents always feel that they're missing out on something when they hear about all the "cool" stuff their friends do behind their parents back. There's always a stage in life when humans want to test their boundaries. Another thing to consider is, though our children are worth going in debt to keep them in private schools, they may not always enjoy this kind of schooling. Comfortable is good, but boys always leave their comfort zone for an adventure... better sooner than later.

Answer 3

They "take" your paychecks? And you LET them? Please, for the love of cheese, grow a spine like others have said. You're 22 -- are you going to continue to let your abusive parents treat you like this when you're 30? 40? 50? It's got to stop now. You've got to live your own life, and leave your abusive, controlling parents behind in the dust and never look back. Don't feel guilty, because they sure as hell didn't feel guilty controlling you like a slave and preventing you from living your own life. Go create your own personal bank account and divert all your paychecks there as a direct deposit from your employer. Then hitch it up temporarily with a friend -- let them know you'll chip in for rent and utilities, and will only stay a short while until you can save enough of a cash cushion to move out and rent a room or apartment of your own.

Answer 4

God bless you!! Putting your own child in juvenile hall! That took a lot of guts and probably hurt a lot, but at least he is safe and they will make sure he gets to school. Kids like to think they have it all tough and everyone and everything is against them. Where if they just lose the attitude and learn to accept criticism and the occasional failing life will be so much better for them. There are a lot of parents out there that would not have had the courage to do what you did. They run around saying "well he is but a teenager and we allow him to 'experiment' with life decisions so he knows what is wrong and right." Absurd! The fact you are even sending him to a private school is fantastic, you are trying to get him a real education and for him to move forward in life. I take it you have tried talking to him, I hope anyways. Listen to what he has to say and if he does not talk. When he is home that is. Just sit there by him and tell him you are not leaving until he tells you what is going on and if he tries to leave get up and block the doorway and let him have it. How you sacrifice so much to give him a good upbringing, what you have done to make sure he gets a proper education, AND THE FACT HE HAS THE NERVE TO TURN HIS BACK NOT ONLY ON THAT, BUT TO DISRESPECT YOU BY SPITTING ON ALL YOU HAVE GIVEN HIM WILL BE TOLERATED NO MORE! Kids today like to think it is tough but they have no idea. They think the "oppressive" life at home is bad and at school. Wait until they get out in the real world and carry that arrogant attitude! I just hope for you he turns around before that happens. It is one thing to send your child off to juvenile hall; it is another to have to kick them out of the house when they are in their twenties because they still have no job and are useless and lazy.

Answer 5

I am sorry, i am not in Ur situation but why would U ever say,
"I will not give up not YET because GOD did not give up on me."
Our children are our children and We should NEVER GIVE UP On them. I can understand putting some distance between yourself, and the child if they cause you mental and/or physical pain but NEVER GIVE UP. This is not a relative or Friend this is Ur child and the love for them SHOULD be unconditional.
I hope everything works out for the best and good luck.

Answer 6

am not an expert on this and not a mother of a teenage yet!!!!!!! but its not your fault if your child runs away they are in a stage of indepence and want freedom. but soon will fin out that the best place for them is at home. they think they are invisable so nothing can happen to them all psyciology stuff. but sit down and tell him how you feel and i know its hard but keep tryin you have a perfect teenager that is going through something for more that meets the eyes just ask have an open conversation and he will to open up to. best wishes and good luck

Answer 7

At 14 years old I remember having a lot of peer pressure that made me do things that I wouldn't have done if it had not been for people pushing me to do so. Thank God I never did drugs or anything like that but could it be possible that something like that is going on with your son.

Answer 8

Im sorry to hear about your situation i also agree with the actions you took on because i your child wants to be on the streets he will soon find out people dont be on the streets for long they go to a more consequentful place (jail, juvie, prison) so maybe if he went for a couples days to a week maybe he would realize what he has good at home and start to do better in life.....
DON'T GIVE UP HOPE!!!!! JUS CONTINUE TO TEACH HIM RIGHT...........and praying helps an awful lot as well......

Answer 9

Something is bothering him. Something is eating him up inside. For some reason or another, he feels lost, he may not feel the love and support he is getting from home. It sounds like he made need counseling. He needs to sit with someone he can open up to. Perhaps there is something going on that he is afraid to tell anyone about.

You have a great attitude. Keep it up. I wish you the best of luck

Answer 10

He ran away to assert his independence, and to test his limits now tell him you want to understand his actions and that he understands there are consequences THEN TAKE AWAY HIS FAVORITE THING for a week.

Then BE THERE FOR HIM do something with him while he is missing what you took away.

Finally set the ground rules for next time and explain what the consequences will be.