I feel so violated?

Question

Every day at school my personal space is invaded by people slamming their fingers between my ribs, and slapping me on the head. I don't know what to do. I've been to my guidnence office, my teachers, my parents and it still continues to happen. And if I tell them to stop hurting me they just do it more. I feel so violated and disrespected. What should I do? Is it normal I feel so strongly about my personal space?

I don't want to hit them back because then I'm no better than they are. I'd hate to be labeled a hypocrite.

I'm 5' 7'' and weigh 115 lbs. They are like 20x the size of me. I could never take them.

I never participate in group or peer activities because, to be honest, I hate everyone at my school. They are all immature assholes (except for a few people).

Answer 1

No, it's not wrong at all. That's why it's called "personal" space, it belongs to you. I would continue to try and talk to the people around you that should have some power in the issue.

Let your parents know again that this is happening and how it's making you feel, maybe suggest going and speaking to the principal together in regards to the issue. If there is one thing that educators listen to is parents, let them know that you need them to support you in defending your physical and emotional well being at school.

Answer 2

The problem here is that you really can't go anywhere to get away from this. Calling the police and getting teachers involved won't solve the problem because even if they are punished you'll wind up being even more ostracized and taunted as the wimp who tattled.

So, you're really left only with the alternative of retaliating somehow. You're not being a hypocrite by defending yourself. What you need to do is get yourself prepared. Learn some self-defense moves. If you can, get boxing lessons, and start working out to build your strength.

Also, keep your eyes peeled, and when one of the guys who pokes you in the ribs is about to do it, you need to forcibly swipe his hand away. You may need to take a beating if the person fights you, but chances are that will bring the matter to a head and even if you lose the fight, you'll wind up sitting in the principal's office and you can explain the story that he struck first and that you were defending yourself. Make sure to point out that you've told the authorities about the abuse you are taking, and they did nothing, which allowed you to be attacked and caused your injuries.

Answer 3

1st rule - If you are poised as a victim you will be a victim. Stand your ground. It's better to spend a day in detention for cold cocking some pissant little bully then put up with sh*t until you are out of school.

Simple tact. If someone invades your space, turn around and move into theirs. Don't backdown. Be prepared to push back..

Also if the school seems unwilling to do anything, contact the police and file for a restraining order against these thugs. At least when someone winds up hurt they will know where to look.

98% of the problem with bullying in schools is the feminization of the school culture. Don't take crap from anyone.

It is normal to feel encroached upon, the worst of it, is you've likely been told from an early age to retreat. Quit retreating. Stand your ground.

take back your school from the bullies. I've had to tell my 15 yr old son the same thing, we put him in Taekwondo when he was in 7th grade as the school was doing nothing about it. Now he is 6'5" and no one give him crap. In Taekwondo you develop confidence and learn it's not a matter of size it's a matter of confidence. The more confident you are the less you will put off the air of a victim.
In fact the bigger they are the harder they fall. Sign up at a Dojo near you it'll will return big dividends.

Answer 4

Im only 5'7'' myslf but peole never take that presumption with me
Possibly because I have the lips of Marilyn Munroe and the Eyes of Caligula
I would make a brand new start obviosley these peole have learnt by example .
In the meantime try distancing keep yourself out of reach physically and if they move in to close GLARE

what about doing some Self defence and after youve got some moves descreetly let it be known then build up ypur repetioire of throws ,and the surprise the first on e who goes TOO FAR!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Whoa whoa whoa, you can -still- hit them and be better than they are. You are defending yourself. They are being d**ks. There's a difference.

Personally, I'd wait until I was out of school when only one of them were around. That way they can't team up, and no one is around to stop it.

*Edit: Sure you can take'em. If you have to fight, don't fight fair. They're not being fair, why should you?

Not that I'm suggesting this, but a book in the back of the skull will take most people down. ;-)

Answer 6

Just ignore them, laugh it off. If they think it no longer bothers you, they'll stop. Or talk like a surfer dude & say" narlly jab, jub, but go wheeze someonelses juice". You actually need a friend. That way the two of you could make them feel inadequate.

Answer 7

I'm very sorry this is happening to you. I see no body helps you! So the only thing you can do without violence is: scream to them very loud "STOP" don't touch me, and make a very angry face. At the same time put up your hand as Stop sign. Good Luck. and don't worry if a teacher takes you to the office. Tell the Principal that you didn't receive any help from anybody, and that you have to protect yourself.

Answer 8

I worked with some guys who would purposely do things to irritate me. I tried asking, begging, retaliating etc. Nothing worked until I just did not give them the reaction they were looking for. If you act like it does not bother you then they will either stop or go pick on someone else. It would also help if you began to "goof around with them". If someone pokes you, then you poke someone too. People will accept you and include you if you act like one of them. You don't have to be mean spirited just act mellow and easy going with these guys. I know, in a nice world we should not have to do such things but, this is reality. As the saying goes, if you can't beat them, join them. Give it a try, I bet it will work. Good luck

Answer 9

I think you don't want to have people around you at all. You want to be left alone. That's what provokes the others to slap you around because they see you as a "loner". Maybe you should try to participate more within your peer's groups or just do the same. Walk by someone and slap am on the head and say something like..yo..waz up....
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Answer 10

Tell your guidance counselor and principal you're going to get the police involved for the school cannot remedy the situation.

Give them 24 hours to find a solution. If it continues to happen, walk into the office and tell them you need to call the police because you're being physically abused. If they refuse, tell them you then need to call your parents. Tell your parents to call the police, then their attorney.

It's a matter of personal safety and the school is liable for anything happening to you on their grounds.