I am so pissed at my boyfriend. He kind of cheated on me. I went to the mall and was so tired that I decided to just leave and go check up on him. I heard noises in the front so I went out to the backyard to see what was going on. Luckily, the back door was not locked and I walked in and saw a skank on top of him and giving him a lapdance. She started to put her clothes on and I smacked the hell outta that chick. He was saying that he was sorry and he was just playin and havin fun and that I was the one who told him to have fun. I left and went home. He wants a third chance. Not second, something like this has happened before and I took him back. A third chance he wants. Should we break up or should I take him back?
2007-05-11 08:45:55 · 40 answers · asked by Maria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask yourself: Will you get a better life without him than with him? If so, break up. If not, don't break up. But it sounds to me that you have found out that you should break up, and just need someone to support your decision. So here it comes: I would understand you very, very well if you broke up with him.
2007-05-11 08:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Narvy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 01:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Laree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, what are you waiting for? You caught him in the act of cheating with another woman giving him a lapdance, right? He's done this before, right? He may have cheated before and you don't know about it, right?
Honey, it's one thing for your man to cheat once but twice? No, this isn't your husband and you do not have to put up with anyone that you cannot trust. You deserve to be treated like a princess instead of being mentally abused by your boyfriend.
Did you wonder what may have happend if you didn't show up?
If you take him back, can you trust him not to cheat again? If you continue to take him back after he has cheated, you are basically giving him the right to disrespect you.
2007-05-11 08:52:25 · answer #3 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are other ways to play and have fun. That's not okay. Forget a third chance, obviously the second chance didn't do it for him.
And what does 'sort of' cheating on you mean? For all intents and purposes, this boy was not faithful. He has some real growing up to do. You can do better.
Find someone who will adore you! Not someone who is convenienced by you. You deserve someone who wants to be with you all the time more than anyone else, gets excited to see you, and who is annoyed when he's sick 'cause he can't be with you.
2007-05-11 08:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you should follow your own heart and decide. Asking others what to do is not the greatest thing to be doing, this is a decision that you have to make on your own.
BUT since you asked I will feed you some food for thought.
The guy cheated on you. Why waste time on someone that cheats? If he is cheating, he is obviously dissatisfied with your relationship for one reason or another OR he is just not ready to settle down with anyone. He sounds pretty insecure.
Everyone deserves someone who is stable and who will make them feel good. This guy obviously does not make you feel good. Just like everyone, you deserve better and there is always someone out there who is better. There is probably someone who is waiting for a person such as yourself, who is lonely and is ready to settle down and wants someone to love and you just may be the person. Why turn down a better opportunity, right?
I wish you the best of luck.
Keep in mind (heh heh heeeeeeeeeeeeh) What goes around comes around. He will end up in the same hole you are in sooner or later, but the thing is, his hole may end up to be a little bit deeper and more difficult to get out of .
2007-05-11 08:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, get OUT! He did this once and you took him back- Okay maybe he deserved a second chance. But that he's done it a second time and wants a third chance? No way. I would kick him to the curb and find a man that's good to you and doesn't try to pull bullshit like that.
2007-05-11 08:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell did you slap the girl? And if she really is a skank, what does that say about his taste in women in general and his desire for you in particular?
This is not a relationship. Salvage what remains of your dignity and move on already.
2007-05-11 08:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is going to continue to do this--only you can determine whether or not it's cheating... (some girls say no to guys who want strippers / lapdances, some girls say it's okay as long as there's no penetration, etc...)
If you can't stand this behavior, yes break up with him. Don't expect him to change.
2007-05-11 08:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely.
2007-05-11 08:48:52 · answer #9 · answered by its_keeps_getting_better 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without a doubt break up! You were crazy for not dumping him the first time. If you stay with him then don't even complain when he cheats on you again, it'll be your own fault.
2007-05-11 08:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋