I want to trust my boyfriend. But I think hes cheating on me. What do I do?

Question

It's a long distance relationship, and he hasn't been answering his phone lately. I want to be able to trust him. But sometimes I am in doubt. And my friends all say that it's very possible that he is. And I asked him once and he said that he would never do that. But people say alot of things that thy don't mean.

Answer 1

If money, is not a question, hire a detective.

Long distance relationships suck. If you can't spy on him urself bec of lack of financial resources, and u still would like to stay w/ him in ur relationship, then PATIENCE is the only remedy to ur case. Patience, faith, trust. Wait till ur together and catch him in the act. Then, it's time to leave him and move on.

If he asks for seconf chance, it's all up to u to forgive him or not.

Answer 2

That is why you think he is cheating. You feel a lack of confidence because the relationship is long distance. You cannot see him, you cannot be near him and it is driving you crazy.
It's hard to say whether or not he is cheating, BUT if you really care about him, you would trust his word. IF HE IS CHEATING .......IT'S HIS LOSS, NOT YOURS. He was never worth your time to begin with and it is time to move on.

I had a long distance relationship and I was talking with the guy for about a year. We are now happily married and hopefully expecting our first child.

I wish the best of luck. Long distance relationships are not easy, but maybe in the long run worth it.

NOW, on the OTHER HAND. If you keep trying to contact him and he does not answer, then move on. Find someone else.

I know it's hard, it's heartbreaking and so on, but who's to say there is probably someone better for you.

Answer 3

What other people say or feel doesn't mean a thing! This is something you have to decide on your own! We can all tell your our feelings, but in the end it is all bout what you think! I don't like long distance relationship just for this fact you are talking about! As far as the not answering the phone.. it could be cause he is busy or(????) who knows! You have to decide! Hope this helps!

Answer 4

It doesn't matter if he's actually cheating. The trust has been destroyed. If he doesn't ruin the relationship, you will with the sabotage of your mistrust.

I'd just move on and find someone who is easier to trust. Or you could go to a therapist and work on your trust issues.

You're too young to have a long-distance thing anyway.

Answer 5

Usually on long distance relationship either one or both people cheat, they are sure the other person wont find out. If you don't trust him, then maybe its time to move on, it does not matter how close or far you guys live.

Answer 6

First think about it...don't get all judgmental...have you asked him why he doesn't answer his phone,what is supposedly doing?...Trust him if you dont believe he is a cheater...All people are different...it mostly going to be you opinion for your relationship...if you cant trust him enough though..you should just break it off if you have no trust and doubt

Answer 7

You should always go with your gut feeling. It will never lead you wrong. Listen to your friends, If he hasn't been answering your phone calls, I would say he probably is.

Answer 8

go with your gut. even if you ask, no man would tell you the truth. because you are in a LDR, it makes it that much harder. do you see each other on a regular basis? if not, you need to and judge by the way he acts in person.

but if you have trust issues now, it will be harder in the future.

Answer 9

I was a jerk of a LD-BF once upon a time. I wasn't cheating, but I was pretty lonely & depressed. I barely talked to anyone, including my GF. I was lucky enough to have a lady who worked through it w/ me, so I married her.

Answer 10

Ok you sit him down, and say we have to talk. Then tell him what you think is going on. And if he says he isn't just say OK i just wanted to know. Well thats if you trust him.