I live w/ my child's father who makes me miserable. I want to move out, what can I do?

Question

I dont make enough money for my own apartment,and I have no family in the state we live in. I want to move out really bad along w/ our son. What can I do?

Answer 1

I THINK I CAN UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL. BUT
IF YOU REALLY ARE DESPERATE TO GET OUT OF
THAT HOUSEHOLD THAN YOU NEED TO LOOK FOR
OTHER OPTIONS. MAYBE THERE IS APARTMENTS
IN YOU AREA THAT GO BY YOUR INCOME. OR MAY-
BE EVEN PUBLIC HOUSING. I KNOW IT'S NOT ALL
THAT , BUT WHEN YOU NEED A LITTLE HELP- YOU
NEED A LITTLE HELP. I CAN ONLY WISH YOU THE
BEST OF LUCK AND HOPE THAT YOU WILL FIND
A RESOLUTION FOR THIS PROBLEM. FOR NOW
JUST HAVE SOME PATIENCE. YOUR WISHES AND
PRAYERS WILL BE ANSWERED......

Answer 2

Start a plan. How is your job? Do you have potential to make more money? Can you find a better job. Does the father make good money? Find out through the courts about how much child support he will have to pay you each month. What kind of car do you have? Can you get into a cheaper one? Also one thing I truly believe in is a secret account. you never know. So if you don't have one, get one. Cut back on things, groceries, shopping, going out.......anywhere you can and hide the rest. When you are set, find a small apt. even a one bedroom for now. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

I know how you feel; I went through a similar situation. When I decided to leave I sat down and wrote an action plan (goal).

First I decided to get a better job, my goal was with a government agency since they have good pay and benefits.

When I got the job, I searched for low-income apartments and put my name on the list. In the mean time I was saving as much money as possible. I decided against getting a second job because I didn’t wanted my son to spend any more time in daycares and I didn’t have any support from my ex’s family, but if can afford to do so it might be a good idea.

The apartment was taking too long so I decided to seek for “Rooms for Rent” and I found a nice house with plenty of space for my son to play in the backyard. I knew that the ideal was for the both of us to have our own room but if you only have lemons, you can only do lemonade, right?

When I rented the room I realize that I had more money left at the end of the month than when I use to live with my ex and his mother, plus I felt free to do as I pleased. Freedom is a wonderful thing.

Several months later I was called for he apartment and I rented it.

My income was enough to pay my rent and bills, plus I also found a government program that paid for almost 3 thirds of my childcare. I constantly keep an “Money Diary” to monitor my income/expenses that way I’ll always have enough to take care of myself.

I still live away from my family and I feel lonely at times but I make a point of counting all the blessings that God has giving me. I’ve met new people and I feel things are only going to get better.

You have the power and ability to turn your life around. The only thing you have to do is get on your feet find ways to improve yourself, your work skills, etc… If one thing doesn’t work, then try another one and it might take you years to accomplish but at the end you will prevail.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

You can always apply for state aid, they can assist you with your rent and food expenses, along with healthcare etc. At least until you make enough to do it on your own. It's not worth staying with someone who makes you feel miserable.

Hang in there

Answer 5

Find your nearest womens shelter or domestic crisis center. The YWCA usually has a place.

Get out NOW!!!!!

Answer 6

if you dont have any friends that can help you out have you thought about maybe putting out a want ad soliciting a person to move out with?

Answer 7

get your life together! no ones gonna help you, so learn how to help yourself. get a better job, start working out child support payments.