please do respond seriously because i am going to be married in months time please??????????
2007-05-11 07:28:28 · 44 answers · asked by Facing the adolescent period!!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Try asking her! If you don't trust her to answer you honestly then maybe you shouldn't marry her!
2007-05-18 12:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first ask her. If you feel she is not honest then when you do do deed you will be able to tell. She will be in a little bit of pain and there will be some spotting. I am not sure why it would matter though because by that time you will be married and it will be a little too late to turn back don't ya think. If you don't trust her on this matter then maybe you should rethink marrying her. I am not trying to cast doubt to you, but if its a big deal then think about what you are doing. Good luck and have a great day!
2007-05-18 06:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you don't know by now, the wedding night won't help you. Second of all, it shouldn't matter - if you really love her.
There is NO physical way to tell. It used to be that doctor's would examine a woman's hymen to see if it was "intact" proving virginity. Now we know that not all women have an intact hymen, whether they are a virgin or not. A woman's reaction during sex means absolutely nothing either. It doesn't always hurt the first time and even if it does hurt, it doesn't mean she's a virgin.
The only way to know is to ask her. If you don't believe her, then don't marry her.
2007-05-11 07:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by dickenerfelheimer 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well lets just say ask her!!!! Because there is no way to really know if a woman is a virgin. And you should know if she has had sex at all. And if so, both of you should get tested for any diseases. Unless both and I said Both of you are Virgins. . And if your getting married then it shouldn't matter if she is a Virgin or not . What DOES matter is can you trust her to be faithful and loyal after your married.
2007-05-19 06:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by reddog_1965 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask her. If you don't trust her to tell you the truth, you have no business marrying her in the first place.
As for all of the "it will bleed the first time if she's a virgin" people, sorry... but you don't know what you're talking about. The hymen can break from vigorous athletic activity, from an injury, etc, and many women are born with a very thin hymen or no hymen at all.
2007-05-11 08:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE, get over yourself and the notion of virginity....it's highly overrated. She should be considered a virgin to YOU. Untouched, clean & pure, from you. Just like buying a used car....it may not be NEW, but it's NEW to you. If your significant other tells you she's a virgin, accept it and go on. What she did or did not do before you came along is none of your business. Besides, she could have been raped or molested.....she wouldn't be a "virgin", but she would have never had consensual sex, which is what you're really wanting to know. If you simply must need a "sign", SOMETIMES the lady will bleed a bit. You should be able to tell by her reaction to penetration...the first time usually hurts! Please be gentle and loving with her....it will pay off in the long run!!!!
2007-05-11 07:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by manatee lover 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You can ask her because unless she goes to the doctor for proof, there is not way of proving it. If you don't trust that she is telling you the truth about being a virgin and if you think she would lie about something that important, maybe you shouldn't marry this woman.
2007-05-18 10:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't know for sure, you will just have to rely on her honor. After all, if you can't do that you really shouldn't be marrying her.
You can check to see if she still has her hymen, but that isn't even close to 100% correct. Many women will not be and still be a virgin. It can break for many reasons that don't have anything to do with sex.
No offense, but you are worried about the wrong thing. You want a good wife, not a virgin. Huge difference.
2007-05-11 07:35:29 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself whether or not that would really matter? You're marrying her because you love her, not because she's a "virgin", right?
A woman's hymen can be broken while running or walking briskly, so don't believe that "unbroken hymen" crap.
A woman's first time can be slightly uncomfortable, but that may or may not be true for all wonem. She may also experience some light bleeding after intercourse.
Just trust her answer, there's no medical test that will tell you the answer!
I hope that helps.
2007-05-11 07:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Theres really no way you can know for sure if she is a virgin. the best thing to do is ask her and hope she is honest. But then again she can always say yes she is and she is really not. if a woman did not have sex for a long time she will be tiet she could even bleed, that does not make her. it just mean she is tiet.
For example i have a friend who have been having sex since she was 16 and she is now 25 everytime she meet a guy she tell them she is a virgin and they believe her because she is tiet and she sometimes bleed. buit she knows she wasn't a virgin but they believe her because thats what she wants them to believe.
So your best bet it to ask her and hope she is honest. does it really matter if you love the person. this is 2007 and it's gonna be hard to find a girl who is a virgin but good luck my friend.
2007-05-11 07:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
#1, DOCTORS CANNOT DETERMINE VIRGINITY 100%!
There is absolutely no way for a man to know if his wife is a virgin or not. A doctor can determine whether or not a woman's hymen has been broken, but a hymen can break through use of tampons, horseback riding, masturbation, GYN exams with a speculum, etc.
The only way to know is to ASK HER and TRUST HER. Otherwise, why are you marrying her?
2007-05-12 09:19:15 · answer #11 · answered by nomadic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋