Hi! I'm 33 & my BF is 21yrs. old we have been 2gether for over 17mths & we do live together. I got so pissed last night at him becuz He lost his job on Wed.05/9/07. & he goes and get's cable w/out telling me & he didn't even tell me he had lost his job till last night he says am making a big deal about the cable but, I don't think am..Hell! How can u lose ur job and go get cable I wanna end it with him becuz I feel am more like his mother then anything & to top it off I found out last week am Pregnant. Please help what should I do? "Forgot to mention I do have a good paying job."
2007-05-11 05:27:58 · 16 answers · asked by kumo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's just a kid. Don't expect him to act your age- expect him to age HIS age. You wanted a child and you got one. or two, since you went ahead and got pregnant!!
2007-05-11 05:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
....I wanna end it with him becuz I feel am more like his mother then anything & to top it off I found out last week am Pregnant. .......
Wow! You have a really tough thing going. If you already feel like his mother,.... is that going to change as things go on? Can you raise a child alone? If so, I'd leave. Tell him you're not ready to deal with his childishness. He needs to step up to the plate and swing the bat like an adult if he wants to stay in the game. (I used to play softball, sorry). You are the big leagues, not the back yard. JMO
Shi
2007-05-11 13:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realistically its not going to work, any which way you look at it. He is only 21, although men really never grow up. So basically now your pregnant, do you have a baby and put up with him? or Have the baby without him and move on with your life as a single mom? (btw, as a single mother its not that difficult, if I can do it anyone can). Last result would be not to have the baby at all and thats a decision that you will need to make. So you have options, evaluate what is going to make you happy in the long run. Good Luck
2007-05-11 12:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by dreamer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not making a big deal about the cable thing. it's normal to be upset, how does he expect to pay for the cable with no job? does he expect for you to pay all the bill? so what does this mean now, since he has no jbo now he can just get cable and stay home on the couch all day while you go to work and pay all the bills and being pregnant?
he needs to take care of his responsibility. he knew you was 33and he can't use that excuse of being 21 he is young. I don't care, now he has a child on the way he needs to grow up and tace care of his bussiness. you need to put your foot down. talk to him.
2007-05-11 13:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is right
You blowing up over the cable is nothing.
Deep down you know it won't work
now you are using the cable as an excuse
You knew what you were getting into when you
got together.
Now that there is a baby in the picture things are on
a whole new level.
You can't make him grow up
so either talk it out with him issue by issue
or let him go.
no need to keep stressing out on little things he does
2007-05-11 12:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not making a big deal about the cable. I mean he has NO job now and he goes and gets cable.
Did he put it in your name or his?
If you are feeling more like his mother than his girlfriend its time to kick him out and move on with your life.
He is 21 going on 14.
p.s. IF you give this another chance, cancel the cable (if its in your name) and do not reconnect it until he has a steady job or you have kicked him out. If its in his name it is his debt.
2007-05-11 12:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more and more I think about it... the more and more I see guys want a girl who's like their mother... and girls want a guy who's like their father. Sounds disturbing... but I'm seeing it well too often.
To address your question, he is irresponsible based on what he did. If I lost my job, I would not be looking to spend money on luxuries like cable.
2007-05-11 12:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by sirtitan45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and if he was older and did this it would be different how? i wouldn't fuss about it all older women tend to feel this way during troubles. i was just a year older then he was when my girl was 33 and i heard the same thing when there were issues and i was with her for 4 years. ya know things happen no matter what age you are and there are certain things guys do not matter what age they are this i think is one of them
2007-05-11 12:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't really matter..being older doesn't mean being more mature. But one thing is for sure..'men never grow up!':P
I don't think you can expect much from ur 'irresponsible' boyfriend..U big enough to look after ur child.
2007-05-11 12:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all u hav
to bug him about getting a job
and if he gets annoyed of hearing
u bug him he isnt that guy for u
and if hes 21 he has to b mature
and not go and get cable
i just hope everything works out
2007-05-11 12:31:44 · answer #10 · answered by hippy_paranoid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋