Would you date a person other people(your friends and family) found unattractive?

Question

Or if you even thought that person was not that good looking at all, but they had the best of everything else.

If you look at your bf or gf and think to yourself..they are so ugly, but I love them..you should break up with them..right?

Answer 1

Beauty is only skin deep.....if you date someone just based on their looks.....you are going to lead a miserable life....looks can go away in time....a personality is forever.

And it isn't up to my family and friends about who i date...it's whoever make ME happy and content.I would rather date a plain jane gal with a good personality and good sense of humor than a "hot" gal that is stuck on herself and the personality of a rock.

Answer 2

Well that depends, are you able to feel something for this person on a level that transcends the platonic relationship despite their 'unappealing' physical features or are you just keeping them around because you see good qualities in them and just don't want to risk letting go of a good guy?

First of all, if I was in love with someone who my family thought was ugly or unattractive, I wouldn't really care what they thought because so long as I saw the beauty within that person and loved them with all of my heart, their opinions (esp one that is so trivial) would be virtually meaningless to me. I mean who is dating them, you or your family?

You see I am a person who feels that there has to be some level of physical attraction for a relationship to transcend from the level of a friendship to a romantic one but that is not to say that if you really know someone, that their inner qualities won't dominate your perception of them to the point where they are attractive in some way.

So basically what I'm trying to say is that if you really do love this person and are happy being with him, don't let anyone else's opinions alter that and cause you to doubt someone who I am sure cares about you very much. However, if you only are keeping him around on the basis that he is a 'good guy' then you should spare yourself a lot time and them a lot o pain by moving on to someone that you are more compatible with both physically and emotionally.

Good luck and take care:)

Answer 3

Yes I would date a person that my friends and family say is unattractive. If a person is wonderful and I fall in love with them, I don't date them for my family to look at them but because I admire them and like the way they make me feel. So yah, I have dated people who don't fit the norm of what society would call attractive, but they were attractive to me. Once you see the beauty inside a person sometimes their outside looks beautiful to you too.

Just like a good looking person can act like a butthead and then you don't find them good looking anymore,

it works the opposite way too, where a wonderful person will start to look more attractive to me. I begin to actually like all the little things about them that make them who they are, including their looks.

Answer 4

If you love the person for who they are what does it matter what anyone else thinks? Looks only go so far, personality and intelligence make up the rest.. Don't worry what your family and friends think, tell them to get a grip on reality they aren't dating him you are and if they would take the time to get to know him they would understand why! Good luck and don't break up with someone because of what others say, only break up with someone if it is how you TRULY feel..
Again I say good luck and be happy..God Bless..

Answer 5

First off who cares what other people say, it how you feel with that person.
When people love who they are with, they can't see (or rather their minds and eyes overlook) the imperfections. For ex: when I was with and loved an ex boyfriend, I saw him to be the hottest guy ever... but now thinking of it... he wasn't all that hot... he was just normal looking. So I guess you can say the eyes can play tricks when in love.


But since you still see his "ugly" parts only right now. How can you be turned on by him? Maybe you just don't love him (of course you don't have to love the person your with but it would be nice) so maybe you guys aren’t meant to be together ... but if your *just* seeing for what ppl are telling you (like your friends and family) if you want to listen to them, then fine. it's your lose cuz apparently they make your decisions for you.

To answer your question.
I would ^_^

I’d first ask myself:

Why do I like/love this person? (write a list of all the good qualities on one side of a paper and the bad on the other side, then determent from there)


What do *I* find attractive about him?

*(most important question EVER!)* does he treat me right? (It’s actually pretty hard to find someone who treats you right)

Do we fit together? (Is he a perfect match for your personality? ex: if your a quite, shy person and he is fun and outgoing... you need that in your life to balance yourself. ex2: if your a worry type person and he's not... he can calm you down and make you feel better)

Answer 6

OK not to be a b*tch but that is way shallow. Ive know the best guys to be not traditional attractive. If you love them there is no question, why do you care about what other people think your the one who is with them. I have also know people that are in relationships that arnt physically attracted to the other but then found that later they love so much about that person that they end up phisically attracted to them.
P.S. If he is as good as you say and you are seriusly asking this question, you dont deserve him.

Answer 7

You sound like what people think of your boyfriend have a lot of affect on you. think about how that person make you feel. are you happy, does he make you laugh, is he there for you? does he treat you like a queen. thats haard to find in good looking man . 1 because most of them are gay 2 because they feel they are good looking if you leave them they can always get someone else. so if you happy with this man forget what everyone else has to say. at the end of the day it's about you and this guy that makes you happy.

Answer 8

I'm sorry but if you try to date only good looking people then you could be missing out on your one and only. Just because you friends and family think that person is unattractive doesn't mean he or she is. People have different taste.

Answer 9

Well I have dated ugly people and they have been the best at everything and even better than cute guys. They have treated me better, cared for me and given me more support than the cute conceited guys. You don't have to care what people think because they are not the ones that are marrying this person and it is not their happiness at stake.

Answer 10

Yup, what I think is attractive and what other people think is attractive are very different things, plus If i just meet them and think they are so so on the looker scale, then get to know them and realize they are amazing, they slowly become more and more attractive untill you can't get enough of them, it's called actually loving someone and not being a superficial shallow prick