I am adopted and sometimes i get the feeling my mother hates me?

Question

could this possbily be the reason why i have dysfunctional relationships outside of home?

adoptive mother

Answer 1

I don't think so. You are the driver, then you stir it. Meaning, you are living your own life, you're grown up now and so you are expected to think maturely. OK,so you are an adopted kid and your mother hates you, that doesn't sound right. That is not so true, but you are forgiven, because you have not seen a lot where what you have said is fitted. you are loved that's why you are adopted. If nobody cares for you, you will be in the trash bin now. Maybe, your mother has a little bit of a problem, and cannot find solution for it. Maybe you can help her? She's only a human being, she can be in trouble too. She did a good job bringing you up by how you say your comments. So just out of the blue, go to her and hug her and tell her "Mom, i think you need this." Ask her what's bothering her. You are allowed to have relationship (boyfriend) so therefore, you are grown up now. You can turn the table around and give back what this woman has given you (and this is for everybody) which is caring and loving. If she yell at you, forgive her, there must be a reason for that. So before outsourcing love, try and find it at home first, I'm sure it's just around there somewhere. Don't be enemy to the one who take care of you and your needs. ok??? She can't be that iron-woman that you think she is. Work it out with her and really try not to be so sensitive and self-pity. Alright? you are lucky you have a mom. i grew up without mother, because she passed away very very early. So , miss her a lot, and love her a lot... there's a good return, i swear to you...

Answer 2

Which mother are you referring to dear? Your adoptive mother, or your biological mother?

Edit: Ok.
Sorry that you feel that way.
It's understandable for children (regardless of age) to feel hated by a parent. And yes, this could lead to other relationship issues outside of the home.

I suggest you talk with her about that. Do you have sibblings that aren't adopted as well? Maybe bring up the issues you have and why you feel she hates you in a conversation with her. I'm sure you two can sit down and talk it out.
I'm also hoping that it's a pure misunderstanding, and just the opposite.

Hope all goes well for you.

Answer 3

The way we are raised, what we see in the home growing up has a lot to do with our relationships outside of the home. I have been in therapy to help me recover. I am currently trying to help an adoptee that was kicked out because he was told he was only adopted because they wanted children. He just turned 18 but still is in school. Giving him a place to live with a mixed bag family hopefully will show him that family is however loves you. Blood has nothing to do with it.

Answer 4

If your talking about your adopted mom,well some people don't show love as well or much as other people do,Just remember she had you by choice,she didn't get preg. and was stuck with you,she had a choice,If I was you I'd set down and have a talk with her,and let her know how you feel,and if you have strong feelings for her for taking and raising you when she didn't have to,I'd let her know to,she might need to that to.!!